Baby in own room?

[Nicola92]

My little girl is only 9 weeks old and I am wondering when I can put her in her own room. She is a fabulous baby, she has a bottle around 7/8 at night and has started going through until around 5am.

She currently has a bath and her bottle
and then we put her in her Moses basket downstairs and carry her up when we go. I am
Just wondering when I can think about putting her in her own room. I am not quite ready yet but definitely thinking about it! I just don't want to spoil a perfectly good routine!

Guidance says 6 months. Your breathing regulates hers, and so helps in the prevention of sids.

6 months is the official advice. Bare in mind she might change! DD wouldn't sleep in her cot for ages (3.5 ish months) then slept in it like a dream and now a month later teething has kicked in and she can't settle in it

6 months, the sleep patterns will change constantly- any reason why you want to do this sooner?

I had all 4 of mine in their own rooms as soon as they outgrew the Moses basket at side of bed - around 6 weeks. They all slept all night. No bother

Didn't move mine until around 8 months. 6 months is the guideline time to keep them in the same room to help prevent SIDs

Why change something that is working? Wait until it stops working and then think about changing it.

They all slept all night. No bother

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The 6 months guideline is to help to prevent SIDS, not because they DON’T sleep.

6 months is the minimum. I moved mine at 7 months and was very happy to get my bedroom back! But keeping them in with you reduces the risk of SIDS, so I just put up with it as long as I had to.

No less than 6 months

If you are worried about SIDS don’t co sleep. Baby in cot in own bedroom or parents bedroom isn’t going to make a blind bit of difference to SIDS

Yeah all the research into SIDS and babies being in their own room means nothing

Why change something that works?

Not according to the lullaby trust, who are better reference when it comes to SIDS than some random on the Internet

That was in response to Whitechocandraspberry

I moved my son into the bigger cot in “his” room at 5mo as he was rolling into the sides of the bedside crib (not that he was prepared to actually spend much time in it, but never mind). But I slept in the room with him as we kept a bed in there (and again, bigger cot not much more acceptable to him!)

Room sharing (without co-sleeping) with your baby reduces the risk of SIDS by 50%. The current recommendation therefore is a minimum of 6 months of room-sharing, though 12 months is preferable. Think about that @Nicola92* -you’d be doubling the risk of SIDS in the first 6 months by moving baby now.

pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/128/5/1030

*not against co-sleeping just quoting the research

Thank you everyone for your comments. I am fully aware that the guidelines are 6 months. As I said I am not ready to move her but I'd be lying if I didn't think she was probably ready.

So right now after her bath she sleeps in her Moses basket and we take her up to bed with us, is it ok to put her to bed (in our room) then? Or is that a no no? I'm a first time mum so I'm just curious.

I definitely don't want to change something that is working or do anything too soon. Was just looking for others opinions

Guidelines are to keep them with you for 6 months. It’s worth doing as it’s only a tiny portion of their lives, but the risk of SIDS does reduce when baby is with a parent for the first 6 months for all sleeps (naps and nighttime).

I personally couldn’t have risked it tbh, I’d never have forgiven myself if the worst had happened.

I'd be lying if I didn't think she was probably ready

Ready for what?

Recommendation is to NOT let them sleep alone until they’re at least 6 months because of SIDS.

What exactly is your baby doing that makes you think she’s ‘ready’ to go against the SIDS recommendations?!

She benefits from someone else being in the room & being lightly disturbed so she doesn’t go into a very deep sleep and basically forgets to breathe. She hears you breathing, her body follows yours.

Moved my son at about 5 months so slightly before guidelines. He slept through at this point so was fine and I had a baby monitor, the only thing is if I heard any noise on the monitor I was in his room checking nothing was wrong, would have been way easier to have him next to me.

We had to put ours in our bedroom after bath at around 6.30pm from 6 weeks, as she just couldn’t cope with the stimulation of lights/tv (even on really low)/cats meowing/us coughing etc. Kept jolting awake and wailing in tiredness.

I tried staying in the bedroom with her for the evenings, but she kept waking up every time I shifted on the bed/turned a page in my book etc so now we watch her on video monitor and I go to bed super early.

Oh also, I wasn't really aware of the guidelines either, I used to go and have a shower for 10 mins whilst he slept in the bedroom next door. I'd probably follow the guidelines more strictly if I had a second child though.

Guidelines are just a guide - not the rules. DD moved into her own room at 4.5 months. I did a lot of research into the SIDS stuff and was comfortable with that. Others would read exactly the same published studies and draw different conclusions! When the time feels right, you could just give it a go for one night and see how you feel.

Obviously this is something I am seriously looking into otherwise I wouldn't be posting on a forum. Not here to be judged or questioned just asking for advice.

My family are always telling me to put her in her own room but of course things were very different in their day!! My health visitor (although she probably shouldn't have) also said to me that I would know when the time is right and that it's not realistic to think that people keep their babies in their room for that long!

Well, that just clarified that some HV’s do more harm than good

There is NOTHING a baby can do to show you they are ‘ready not to die from SIDS’.

...& of course people keep their babies in their rooms for 6+ months.

How do you know that your baby isn’t ready to die of SIDs?