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sleep training advice needed, second child different to first!

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Itslittlek · 14/04/2019 18:26

So the ins and outs of this scenario are below, I would absolutely love some help if anyone has any experience with this.

2 children - daughter just over 2 yrs and our son almost 8 months, still feeding the second

We did the Jo Frost timed interval sleep training with our first when she was about 1 and it worked a treat. Within 2 nights she was sleeping through and she was feeding twice a day, morning and night. Before that it was chaos - bed sharing, waking frequently, only meaning I could feed her to sleep and it just got to the point where enough was enough. The transition was really seamless and worked great.

Our little boy - so now as a second time around mum, I saw a lot of the same signs - frantic feeding where they kind of whack their arms around, waking after about 20 mins repeatedly etc etc and then feeding as and when all night. So we kind of went for it with the same Jo Frost approach at 7 months, and we had a week of it being really good (settled within about 6-8 mins and then doing 3 hour stints) but then its just got really really fluffy, ineffective and unpredictable. So I am at a loss.

I feel like I am being really inconsistent (which I hate!) and I don't know if he is just not ready? If I should try something else?

All I do know is that I definitely want to keep feeding, so I have been going to him when he properly stirs (around 3 hours) and feeding and then putting him back down which was ok. Does anyone have any experience sleep training whilst still feeding?

So its all a bit of a mess...feeding to sleep again, sometimes a bum pat does the trick, sometimes not....

All I do know is that now we are a family with two children, I need to be realistic as well about my ability to keep this up. We kind of went with the signs he was giving us that he wanted a bit more space but I feel like its bitten us a bit because now we are neither here nor there!

Thanks in advance of any suggestions or similar experiences xx

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Laur2017 · 14/04/2019 18:56

My DS is 8 and a half months and I started sleep training about a month ago. I read a book called the baby sleep guide by Stephanie modell, and used the gradual retreat method and really focused on not feeding to sleep (I know you said you want to carry on feeding). I breastfeed my DS during the day and evening, but since breaking some habits he now no longer requires or expects night feeds as he's having 3 good solid meals during the day. Now, he more or less sleeps through the night unless he is teething then wakes once or twice. That book honestly saved my sanity! I've leant it to at least 3 of my friends and they have all benefited loads from it!
Hope things improve for you soon :)

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