How does four month sleep regression end?

[Pandabandit]

Three almost four weeks in here and it's just getting worse, now waking hourly even while cosleeping . Just wondering really what happens next? Does it just suddenly improve? Or gradually? Or could sleep just stay like this?! Do I really have to teach baby how to self settle or if it just a question of time?! Please help

How do you teach a baby to self settle?

Lots of teach your baby but no actual how.

Under nhs advise you have your baby in your room with you until 6 months.

Day naps I will put baby down stroke and give dummy then find reasons to leave room / come back check on him son on and often he. Falls asleep when I am not there ... but I didn’t teach him that he has always done it with out complaint ( touch wood ) but when sick / over tired it isn’t going to happen.

I would know the methods ( as cone 6months I imagine it’s gonna be a skill set I need no doubt )

Teach baby to self settle or be prepared for the consequences

We did exactly what you describe (put baby down to sleep when fed/changed/winded) and our baby still didn’t sleep through the night until she was 3.5.

I tried exactly the same things with all 3 of mine but as I said upthread I had 2 good sleepers and one rubbish sleeper.
Only differences I can think of is that dc3 would never take a dummy, plus he was breastfed longer as I took a years mat leave rather than the 5 months I had with the older two so never had to introduce a bottle.

I breastfed all but don’t think it would be different if they’d been bottle fed. Stopped at 5-6 months as returned to work. No bottles

I’m on my third baby. First as I said didn’t sleep through the night until she was 3.5.
Second was horrific initially but slept through at 15 months and has never woken in the night since (now nearly 4).
Third is only 14 weeks but sleeps 7-7 with one feed.
Done the same things with all of them 🤷🏻‍♀️

Oh so to answer what I was doing "wrong" - basically I always fed to sleep as it worked well for DS but meant he couldn't self settle. Also I never waited at all when he cried in the night, usually bolted into his room pretty quickly. So in the end we were just teaching him to self settle when he was 14 months. He took to it really well, it made me realise he didn't actually want me in there picking him up half the time! To be fair to us we were doing better until the four molars in a month at 1 year, after that everything really went to the dogs.

Oh and just to clarify as a PP mentioned those of us that "had to fork out for sleep consultants", I think when I use that term it sounds like I spent thousands, we spent a couple of hundred and it was all done remotely. I'm not saying this is a small amount of money at all, just quantifying it isn't some Gwyneth Paltrow's maternity nurse we were forking out for (someone lent me that book, did not get on with it at all!)

Pandabandit hi!! Always great to see people from the infertility threads even if on the sleep threads

How did you teach him to self settle kiwiblue?

pandabandit We used the gradual retreat method. You can Google it or I'm happy to PM you with what we did, I've sent it to a few people on here before! We also had to wean him off night feeds.

Thanks kiwi I'll google it. 🤞

I've PMd you