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Help me and DH deal with our sleep deprivation

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Smarshian · 12/04/2019 15:52

We have a 2.5yr old and 10 month old. 2.5yr old sleeps fine 7.30ish until 6.30ish. Occasionally will wake up once in the night for a wee/cuddle/etc but will go back to bed happily after a few minutes. She does this probably 2/3 times a week, the rest of the week she will sleep through.
DS god love him has never been much of a sleeper, he will now wake up for an hour at least once, usually twice a night. Around 12 and 3/4. He still has formula in the night but it doesn’t settle him to sleep, he often cries out in between these times too for his dummy (maybe 2-4 times a night).
DH and I both work full time. I work shifts meaning I’m often with the kids until 1pm when they go to nursery and then working from 3pm until 1am, then have a few hours broken sleep until 6.30 ish.
We are on our knees with exhaustion. We often cosleep with DS if he is having a bad night in the spare room but neither of us sleep well with that arrangement.
DH does 4 nights a week with DS and then I do the other 3, and usually work 2 evenings.
Any help or advice would be appreciated. I know it won’t be forever but we are really struggling at the moment. GPs not an option as no family nearby, although they will help when they can if given notice.

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UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 12/04/2019 16:00

At 10 months, you might want to try some version of sleep training. Your DS probably shouldn’t still need formula at night at this stage, unless there are underlying health issues. We had good success at 6 months with the “sleep ladder” approach to teach a bit of self soothing, and when we felt DD had the self soothing skills but wasn’t using them consistently enough, we tried a version of cry-it-out (only 3-5 minutes at a time and we’d never let her get frantic... worked within 3 nights!)

I think it gets to a point with your own exhaustion that for the sake of your and your family’s well-being, you need to lay down the law a bit. You deserve and need a bit of rest!

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