How do you get your older baby to sleep without boob?

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I am trying to nightwean but am struggling to get LO (14 months) to sleep without breastfeeding.
He doesn't rock to sleep any more, won't have his head stroked. We don't co sleep.

I'm also struggling with whether I remember want to. I'm torn between wanting to respond to his needs in the way that I know comforts him, but on the other hand, I know that I 'should' and also want AF to return.
Anyone else had this dilemma?

Maybe start with changing your routine at bedtime - bath pjs milk teeth stories maybe? That way you start disassociating milk and sleep in a gentle way. This worked with my dd in that she would then at least fall asleep for her first chunk of sleep by herself (no tears - she'd just roll around a bit gurgle and sleep) then I'd feed a couple of times in the night but started sending dh in when she cried instead of me, when he went in she didn't ask for milk and would settle with a cuddle. Eventually we just had him going in to any night wakings for a week and at the end of it she didn't ask me for milk again. This was at I think 16/17 months eventually and I was pregnant with dc2 at the time which may have influenced my milk.

No advice but following.. In same position with my almost 13 month old