Can neighbiours complain about baby crying?

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Hi all. I am in need of some advice, i dont know where else to turn. Me and ds are exhausted, but he wont sleep.
Im worried that the neighbours downstairs (i live in a flat) are going to complain about me, and i am on a temporary tenancy so I definitely dont need noise complaints. I think that the people downstairs are an older couple (i think) i havent met them yet. I am planning on going down to apologise today.
My son is crying none stop all night and screaming like he is being killed literally screaming and whalling, he has been doing this for a while, but usually he stops when i hand him his milk. But the past few nights after about 6 bottles he finally decides he dont want any more and at about 4-6am he just continues to scream and is inconsolable for hours and i cant stop him i dont know what to do, i try literally everything! Im exhaused. In the end i just turn all of the lights on and get up with him and show him toys books etc to try to keep him quiet. He has never been a good sleeper and cries a lot all night, and i actually feel bad for downstairs, im pulling my hair out so i cant imagene someone else losing sleep due to a child that isnt even theres. Im not sure what to do. I know im not going to stop my son from crying as ive tried everything in the past.. and am still trying now! I literally cant stop the screaming and crying and if i was to be complained about then there is literally nothing i can do about the noise as i can not stop him from whalling out, even though i try my best. You name it ive tried it literally. He is 15 months old, and im 15 months without sleep.

That sounds tricky. They can complain but I’m sure you more than anyone want it to stop.

Have you spoken to HV?
Tried cosleeping (sorry this is my only sleeping top!)
Being to GP to rule out a medical condition reflux, teething, ear problems are all worse when laying down.

Don't worry about neighbours you have a baby and babies cry it's not like you are playing loud music or having wild parties.

Whats your DS eating like in the day? Do you Co sleep?

Also what naps his he having through the day?

That does not sound normal. I would definitely have your son checked out, you need your sleep. Are you giving him 6 bottles through the night?!! I may be reading that wrong.

My NDN baby cries like this alot.

Sometimes I do think "Oh ffs here we go" but mostly I just feel sorry for them both and get on with my day.

I'd never dream if making a noise complaint.

Could you try shoving a big coat on over your pyjamas and taking him out in the pram? Or go for a drive? That used to calm DS down and also meant I wasn't panicking about waking everyone else up.

If you haven't taken him to the gp please take him asap.
Get his ears checked.
Earache is agony and is excrutiating when lying down.
Also he is at the peak age for ear infections.
It sounds as if he is in pain.

Maybe they're old enough to be hard of hearing! I once lived next door to a couple with a baby (terraced house) and they once apologised for crying but we hadn't heard it. You never know it might not be that bad and any landlord who efforts a freaking baby for crying is unusually cruel.

Hello all. Yes i do co sleep as hes worst in his cot, nothing will soothe him when he is in his cot, he hates it in there he just stands up screaming, he will literally stay up all night untill the morning crying. And yes i have been to the HV and i have been to the doctor! Both said he seems healthy but teething which may be the cause, but this is constant so im not sure how it could be teething every single night? :( and yes unfortunately i do have to give him up to 6 bottles because it is the only thing that will settle him most of the time, i have tried stopping the milk completely and i have tried to substitute it with water and juice, even tried warm juice, but none of this worked he just gets histerical to the point of making his throat sore and red in the face untill he gets milk. He has breakfast lunch dinner and snacks although sometimes he wont eat his meal or he will pick at it. Also as for naps during the day he usually has one nap for around 40 mins, and sometimes he will have another of about an hour.

They can complain but legally children noise is not nuisance noise. So if they went to council they will likely be advised this.
Don't worry about your neighbours, don't add that to your stress

They might not be able to hear - when I was in a flat my neighbour above had a newborn and I could barely hear it at all! And if I did, I wouldn't even think about complaining.

I work for Environmental Health and we deal with noise complaints. Someone could certainly try to complain about baby noise but we would not take the complaint. Nothing that can be done about it, can't count officially as a nuisance. Don't worry.

Go back to the GP and insist on a peds referral. He's in pain. Don't let them fob you off. As for the neighbors I'd pop down and explain he seems to be in pain and you're trying to get help.