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4 month regression. Help.

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cobaltblue27 · 17/03/2019 08:52

DD1 (DC3) is now just over four months. For the last three weeks or so sleep has been bad. I am exclusively breastfeeding, and she used to go from 7pm until about 3am and then up at 7am. Now we have about three or four attempts to settle her at 7pm before she stays asleep, then she’s up at midnight, 3am and 5am, OR if I do dreamfeed at 10pm, she’ll be up 1am, 4am and 530am. When she wakes she only needs a few sucks and then she’s asleep again,it seems so pointless and annoying. Later in the night she is prone to waking herself up with a bowel movement, so I always sort that out, but I’m shattered. Any ideas? Both my boys also did this and there was no respite until I started a formula dreamfeed at 10pm...I don’t really want to do this. I feel like I am failing for a third time...,

Also during day she now won’t feed unless she’s asleep or waking up from a sleep. She fights and is incredibly distracted (this is worse than the other two).

DS1 who is 4 and four months is autistic and I have really struggled and do struggle to cope. DS2 whois 2 and 3 months has delayed speech (looks like gross motor planning issue rather than ASD I hope). Am anxious DD is going the same way as DS1...

During day DD would sleep for 3 hours if I let her in morning. It’s all wrong!

Help!

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Alyosha · 17/03/2019 09:05

Ok, how much sleep is she having the day? Can you aim for 3 hours max between 7 am-7pm. Don't give her a morning nap of longer than 45 mins/1hr otherwise she wI'll learn she can catch up on lost night time sleep then. And don't let her sleep past 5pm. Are you feeding her as much as humanly possible in the day?

cobaltblue27 · 17/03/2019 14:56

Good tips on the sleeping during the day. Hard to get the balance right between her being overtired and not tired enough if that makes sense? Also trying to feed her as much as poss during day but it is hard with the three of them. We have no routine yet. She’s become so hard to feed. Has anyone else been through this?

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Alyosha · 17/03/2019 16:30

Yes my son is a nightmare to feed. I used to feed him under a cover but he now rejects this. I walk aroubd with him, jiggle and bounce him. Offer a feed every 30 mins. On naps, give her max awake time of 2 hrs 15 mins, so wake 7am, nap 915, awake 10, nap 1215, awake 230, nap 445, awake 5pm

cobaltblue27 · 18/03/2019 07:04

Thanks Alyosha. What do I do if I was up solidly from midnight to 0245? This is awful. And she was up at 0545 again.

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Alyosha · 18/03/2019 07:51

Sounds tough! I would probably cry and then just say tomorrow is a new day...follow EASY (eat awake.sleep) and split the lunch abd morning naps (ie a 20 minute nap 2 hrs and 15 after she woke and a further 20 minutes at 940-10) to get back on track for bedtime. It is tough starting a routine, it can take a weeks and hard work to implement but imo it is worth it!

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