6mo awake at 4am

[graysor]

Ugh. 6mo ds sleep is getting worse and worse.

He goes down easily enough at 6.30/7 ish. Then wakes about 9/9.30 and 12 and 2 and 3 and then from 3.30/4 is impossible to resettle. We’ve tried co sleeping, feeding, cuddling, rocking, shushing, patting, and just leaving him. But nothing works. He’s just wide awake.

We are trying to keep him in the quiet and dark in his room until at least 5 to try not to make him think that early is morning.

He’s then usually ready for a nap by about 6. Which is exactly when 3yo dd wakes up. And by then it’s like he’s been reset and will go down pretty easily in his cot for a 30 min nap.

Is there anything I can do at 4am to get him to sleep?? I’m desperate.

I wish I had some advice but I'm going through the same with my 4.5 month old, plus she's just started her sleep regression. You have my full sympathy. Interested to hear people's suggestions

Hi OP, try slowly pushing that first nap later by 5 or 10 mins every few days. It's helping us at the moment

Same here with 6mo. I let her sleep on me from 5-7 this morning after she was awake from 3.30. She sings to me and kicks excitedly if I look at her. Her big sister isn't one for a lie-in, either

Sympathies to those in the same boat.

Pantheon - we’ve tried moving first nap. It can be as soon as 1 hr 45 mins, or as long as 3 hours, and it doesn’t make a blind bit of difference

What happens when you leave him? If he is content can't you go back to sleep?

Heart of glass - he is screaming and crying. Very far from content! I would absolutely just leave him if he was quiet, or grizzling. But he’s full on crying, and I really don’t want him to wake dd.

Do they share room? Its horrible isnt it? I really feel for u. My older one woke at 5-5.30 till she was 2. We took it in turns to get up. I weaned her off night feeds by having a terrible week where i refused her milk if i new she had drunk throughout day. So then at least she would go through from 6 30 till 5 with a dream feed. Currently have a 6 month old who is sharing with sister who now wakes at 7 sometimes 8 bur he is all over the shop and im ripping my hair out as he shouts and sqwarks even after been fed then can find it tricky to self settle. Im so exhausted especially with 2 of rhem in the day. Its so hard isnt it? Do u have family close by that Ur older one can stay at once or twice a week? Thats my saving grace atm xxxx

They’re rooms are next door, but they don’t share.

Although more often than not they’re both in with us. As I bring ds in once he wakes, and attempt to put him back down in the bedside crib, to save to ing and fro ing all night. And dd nearly always makes her own way in at some point. And I haven’t got the energy to do anything about it.

I have family who help out, but no one who can have dd overnight.

I’ve been up since 3. No idea how I’m going to get through the day.

I'm so sorry @graysor . Same for me, I'm exhausted. What used to sometimes work for me before she started her sleep regression and stopped sleeping full stop was giving her a bottle of expressed milk whilst she slept, maybe half an hour before she usually woke up