Tips on getting 3 week old into next to me crib

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3 week old son will just not go into his side crib, cries as soon as I put him down. During the day he will have short naps in his bouncer but only has long naps on me or my husband.

I have tried....
Swaddling
Hot water bottle to warm matress
Putting to sleep drowsy but awake
Putting to sleep after 20 minutes in a deep sleep
Putting my hand on him when he starts to cry
Talking to him
White noise

I feel at a complete loss and starting to fall asleep when breastfeeding so worried!

Thanks

It's so hard when they are tiny, they just want to be held constantly. Can you try and feed lay down while he is in the next to me, that way you don't need to move him when he falls asleep during the feed and will u latch when finished. You just shuffle back a bit and go to sleep/fall asleep while feeding then and he is safely next to you. It took me a while to master feeding lay down but was a game changer for me during those early weeks as would just latch her on then go back to sleep while she fed.

You could try a dummy once breastfeeding is fully established but I think the recommended age is after 6 weeks if breastfeeding. A dummy has worked wonders for my DD.

I was in the exact same position as you four weeks ago. I tried putting my clothing rolled up either side of my baby, blanket swaddling, swaddle/grow bag, Velcro swaddling the whole lot. Unfortunately I don't have a magic answer as she ended up sleeping in her pram bassinet.

Found that the next to me crib was too big and spacious for her and she wanted something smaller and more cosier to sleep in.

She still falls asleep on me and it's like putting her down like she's a bomb. She hates being on her back so the cribs on a slight tilt and she also has silent reflux which doesn't help.

Do essentially my only advice is to try something smaller for her to sleep in like a Moses basket you can put in the next to me crib x

Thank you, I have tried feeding while he is still Laid down and once he is latched on (which takes longer than normal) he feeds quite well but seems to get worse wind that way so I have to then sit him up anyway!!! Read about a dummy, it would need to be at least 6 weeks and just trying to avoid as my sister had trouble getting rid of the dummy in later life with one of hers!

Thank you!! I have been thinking of going for a moses basket to see if he prefers this! I just love being able to see him and have him close but willing to try anything now to make sure he is safe!!

With the Moses basket if baby falls asleep in it downstairs you can gently carry it upstairs which is what we have to do with the peak bit x

That's true! Thanks, can you place a. Moses basket on the side crib? Just to save buying a stand and so all the money on the next to me crib isn't a waste 🙈

Any chance baby might have reflux or silent reflux? Is he ok when you lie him flat on the changing mat and on the play mat?

If you suspect reflux then tilting the next2me might help.

Personally I wouldn't spend more money on a Moses basket as they outgrow them so fast.

I don't think he does have reflux.. He never cries in pain and will lie flat on us.. Just not in his crib! I know I am Reluctant too but asda sell a moses basket for £30 and if I can put it in crib will at least do until he's bigger and maybe will get some use of crib then!

We tilted the Next to Me, and also had to do the side up, DS wouldn't settle with the side down as too open. Yes you could put Moses basket in Next to Me.

This was me with DS. Afraid to say it just took time! When they are a tiny newborn they often just want to be held close to you, a cot just won't cut it.

What really helped us was learning how to safely breastfeed and co-sleep lying down. That way there's no danger of baby slipping out of your arms if you fall asleep while feeding. The book Sweet Sleep is really good for info on this.

That's great thank you. Going to look into feeding lying down and gradually do this into crib! Really appreciate all the advice!!!

I was also told earlier at a breast feeding club on the last feed you do to try and lay them on a blanket whilst you are deeding so it warms up and smells of you and then lay them on this as you put them down as they don't like going from warm, safe, heart beat, being on their side to spacious, on their back, empty, chilly nest.

My baby wants to do everything that she's not supposed to do, she wants to sleep on her side, she wants to fall asleep on the boob whilst I'm sitting up in bed or on the sofa. There are frequent occasions where I have to give in just to get some sleep for the pair of us but I never lay down on the sofa and make sure there is no possible way she or I can move.

You sometimes have to do what you got to do to survive.

Saying that she has been better recently at sleeping (I've jinxed it now) and I think it's because I'm expressing and giving her a bottle the last feed and topping up with booby. She will usually do 3 hrs then and then it will decrease during the night.

On the silent reflux but my baby never screamed or cried terribly but she would fuss, cough, chuff and wake her self up whenever she gets put down but mainly at 4 am onwards. She is on ranitidine for the next 5 weeks which has helped slightly.

Keep at it, I didn't believe anyone when they said it gets better but slowly it does

We used a lambskin with both of ours. Transferring from the pram, to the Moses basket to the crib upstairs, we scooped them up with the lambskin so they were still snuggled up. We then also used it in the cot when they got bigger. It regulates their temperature in all weather and acts as a comforter too. We put it in a travel cot when we go away to ease the change.

Mike is six months and still won't sleep in hers 😂 would also recommend feeding to sleep lying down. We do this and bedshare. We are gradually trying for longer periods in the next to me as she'll be too big soon and needing a cot!!!

Mine not mike

This is how I ended up cosleeping - the bedside crib just wasn’t close enough! If you are persevering but baby still isn’t keen then perhaps make sure you have a bed set up for safe cosleeping so that if you are at likelu to fall asleep with the baby then at least you have minimised the risks. Several months on he does now go down in his cot reliably (we still cosleep sometimes) so it does not have to be forever if you don’t want that

Mine never successfully went into the bedside crib! He started rolling into the sides at around the time he was prepared to sleep a bit further away from me so I moved him to the big cot and I slept for a while in a double bed in the same room and brought him in with me if needed

Our next to me was great. We used it to store remote controls, snacks, blankets, clothes...lol. But the baby, not so much

We bought a cheap Asda Moses basket and put it inside the next to me for the first 8 weeks. We then moved her into the crib and she took to it really well.

Two tips I had were to pop the crib sheet down the front of my top for a bit before putting it on so that it would smell of me/milk and putting a hot water bottle in the crib then taking it out just before putting it in so that it felt warm for him.

It took a bit of persistence for us but I found swaddling, white noise and sleeping with a hand on his tummy worked eventually.

I used to have to sleep right next to the next2me (so lower down in the bed than a normal position) with my hand/arm over my baby's stomach. This would usually be after rocking him into deep sleep... Velcro swaddle blankets also helped. I think it got better some time after the first month.