Feel like I'm losing my mind.

[MrsWidgerysLodger]

DD 15 months, has always been a bit up and down with sleep. 8m sleep regression was pure hell and nearly killee but since starting nursery age 1 she's been brilliant and sleeps through more often than not... Until recently.
She was really poorly with a raging fever about a month ago. She's now recovering from chickenpox. And she Will. Not. Sleep.
She's got insanely clingy during the day to the point where I have to take her to the bathroom with me or she'll scream and throw herself about to the point where I'm worried she'll hurt herself.
She's waking every couple of hours at night and is a complete nightmare to get back to sleep. Me and DH are averaging maybe 4 hours sleep per night at the moment and it's not enough. We're exhausted and ill. Currently sat in bed with a bloody lip after she's headbutted me whilst I was trying to settle her which isn't helping my mood.

No point to this post really other than to rant. I know it's due to her being ill but fuck me I can understand ho sleep deprivation is a torture method.

Hi MrsWidgeriesLodger, if it's any consolation I'm awake too, my husband just had a diabetic hypo and I had to call an ambulance. He was too far gone for me to deal with it by myself. It happened at 12.30 and I'm too wound up to sleep now. Finally got him sorted and he's feeling better so that's good.
Sleep deprivation is horrendous. You just have to slog through it and eventually things improve. Could you take it in turns at night so the other one gets a few hours unbroken sleep? This will pass eventually and your daughter will sleep through the night, but it probably feels like it'll never happen at the moment! If she's asleep now make the most of it.
for you.

Oh Frippit, how bloody terrifying for you. So glad he's feeling better now but I know what you mean about being too wound up to sleep.
We try to give each other time out but can't practically do the alternate nights thing due to the fact it can literally be that you've not got back to sleep and she wakes again so the other person then goes to her iyswim. I just feel like a terrible person as I'm sitting here half wishing we'd never had her. I've got nothing left to give and my poor DH is utterly exhausted to the point of feeling ill.

I have had the unequivocal joy of two no sleepers and a DH who doesn't bloody help.

My suggestions - do you have a spare bed? Or decent sofa? One of you gets to go there every few nights for a decent night and take it in turns. Don't both of you be getting up all the time as you'll both be awake when trying to settle anyway. It's amazing what one night even once a week can do.

Can you bring her in with you? Many would advise against but it's survival and might be one way or keeping g her sleeping.

Do you have any family that could just suck it up for one night and take her for you to get rest?

When it's the weekend, each one of you gets a good nap in the afternoon whilst the other takes little one out - or while she is napping.

Go to bed early, like 8pm. Unbroken sleep is best, but if you can't do that try and get more hours of broken.

It will get better, (she says at 3:57 in her daughters single bed as DD takes up the super king !!)

Hope you're still hanging in there. Like the op said above could you take it in turns to shut yourselves away in a spare room with earplugs for half the night each?
This is what my husband and I did when my daughter was having a not sleeping phase. We got through it but we were on our knees. I also wished I'd never had her when it was really bad. She's 27 now, and has given us 3 beautiful granddaughters. She was a lovely child growing up and we had some great times. My life would have been pretty boring and dull without her.
Also do you have anyone who could have your wee girl for a few hours during the day or weekend so you could just rest up?
It might just be a short phase as she's been ill.