How do you co sleep

[lancslass17]

I've reached the point where co sleeping is required with my 8 month old for my sanity

What do you do if your not ready to go to bed when they are ( I don't eat until he is in bed).
What happens when you get up at 6.30 to go to work but he will happily sleep till 8.30

Not something I've had to do before just wondering how others deal with it..

Wondering about this myself. Been co sleeping with DC 15m for a while now and we have to lie next to her until she goes to sleep and then try to move her into a cot next to the bed. This can take hours. Then we may have a couple of hours to ourselves downstairs. She'll wake up a few hours later and will be in our bed all night from then on.

Dh not happy about this arrangement but I don't know what else to do as she cries so much in her cot and when she wakes up in it in the night.

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I would love to help but I’m still reeling at an 8 month old who will sleep until 8:30! Sorry!

(Put stuff to get ready in another room and sneak out for your morning shower?!)

Not sure my answer is what you want to hear, but i went to bed when mine did. So often, i went up at 7.30, with the idea of getting up once they were asleep, but realistically that rarely happened. I ate earlier, maybe 6 - 6.30, then took a flask of tea and a snack up with me. I read/watched telly etc in bed. I felt very trapped and almost like i was being held hostage, but as an older mother, I knew that time does pass quickly and one day I would look back on those days with fondness, and now, years later, I almost miss those days.
In the morning, one of mine would stay asleep for an hour or so, so I get lot done then.
The worst of it was being in bed, thinking about all the things I had to do, washing, cleaning, meal prep, but somehow those things either got done, or they didn't and I remember using the mantra, 'all fed, nobodies dead' and let my standards slip.
My DH found other things to do in the evening, either worked later, or helped out with a local am dram type group.

I used to lie down in bed until they fell asleep and then rolled away and crept out.

DH and I would do jobs, eat dinner, watch telly, etc and then go to bed at a normal adult time.

My alarm never woke them in the morning (it still doesn't) and I often left for work before they woke up.

The worry for me is that if I creep out when she's asleep she may wake up and crawl round the bed and fall off.

Also it takes hours for her to go to sleep next to me

When we co slept, I had a co sleeper then a cot (when DD could crawl) strapped to the bed on my side.

I'd feed her to sleep then transfer to the cot. When I came to bed, she slept in our same bed after first feed. Transferring her from bed to cot was a bit annoying and she'd sometimes wake but better than giving up the evening completely.

Eventually she went in her own room and we did gradual retreat training to get her to sleep on her own.

Could you consider a mattress on the floor? Or mattress in another room then move to the bed when you are ready to go to bed?

Another one for the "sneak and roll" here. Mine is also a lover of a lie in - will sleep until between 7.30 and 8.30, luckily also a fairly heavy sleeper (although takes a while to settle)

We just put him into our bed and pop pillows either side to stop him rolling out, sit down stairs with baby monitor on, then get into bed and normally have to shift him over as he has starfished!

He can now get out of our bed with no problem (since about a year) and has a habit of coming and standing at the baby gate going "hello? Hello?" If he wakes up

Morning - the lie ins are a blessing honestly. I get up at 7 - 7.30 ish and shower, get dressed and do my makeup in another room completely undisturbed (sometimes, sometimes Hey Duggee is required), load the car then just go in and wake him up, do clean nappy and clean clothes and off we go

Not ideal but we put the matress on the floor !! And have nothing dangerous around it .
We are planning to get a loft bed with is just a base just over the floor but they are too expensive !

Even when mine were mobile they were too lazy never tried to get out of bed. They'd sit up and yell for me.. but never moved.

We had a sensitive baby monitor so could hear if they started shuffling around.

I have the bed shoved against the wall with the cot bed as a bumper on the other side so DS can't roll out. I take him to bed at 6, cuddle while he falls asleep then get up and go about my evening (with video monitor on) sometimes he cries and stirs around 10pm and I just go to bed then as he settles when I'm beside him and when I go up I sometimes take a bottle for a dream feed if I think he needs it. If I'm awake before him in the morning (v v v rare) I just get up and leave him there.

I love co sleeping, the snuggles are heavenly.

As neither of mine would entertain sleeping in their cot, we took the sides off it and used them as barriers around the bed, which was enough to stop them rolling off. They never tried to climb out, they would just yell for me if I was missing.

Mine was crawling at 7mo - I don’t dare leave him as he would be up and launching himself off the bed quicker than I could get to him. He will fortunately go into the cot in the evening - I usually get him to sleep beside me and then transfer. Can you have a floor mattress? That’s the only safe thing I can think of if your baby is quite mobile but not able to understand that they need to stay on the bed.

In the morning if I need to get up earlier then H comes and lies with him, but my son rarely sleeps beyond 7am and usually wakes around 6.30am so he is always awake before H needs to get up