To never leave the house to have a good daytime sleeper??!

[Mrssnowflake]

So my 6 month old takes about one nap a day and this is usually later in the day because she is shattered.
Been looking at suggested sleep schedules for a 6 month old and wondering to achieve these routines how do people actually leave the house!
If we are out and about she is too nosey and doesn't sleep easily in the pram or the car. She sleeps best if there is little disruption and she can be held, but i have things you do and would climb the walls if I didn't go out!
I should add she's a right grumpy madam because of it

I was exactly the same about a month ago except my LO takes 3 naps, a short one in the morning, longer lunch time and then if needed a power nap late afternoon. I thought I’d never be able to leave the house. I just try and be gone for the lunch time nap if possible as that’s the long nap but the other 2 can be taken in the pram. I’m not massively strict on it and if I hadn’t somewhere to be over lunch time I wouldn’t put it off. Doesn’t help with yours only having one nap. Could you try and spilt the nap into two? Half in the morning and half in the afternoon? That way one could be taken in the pram if possible and one taken back home?

I don't want to sound mean but your baby isn't 'a grumpy madam' she's a very overtired tiny baby! One late nap isn't nearly enough at that age. Some people have the kind of babies that just nod off on the go but others (like mine) require A LOT of effort to get the naps they need. And yes that means either being home or walking in the pram/driving at the right times, but it's not so hard to plan your day around that. It's just part of looking after a baby! You'll both be so much happier if she's napping more!

I thought the same but we opted for a schedule for my own sanity and I ordered a snoozeshade for the pushchair and a battery powered wave sounds machine and he happily began taking a long nap on the go. We did have to address the sleep defecit first though so he could catch up before we mastered naps on the go and took a few weeks but it was so worth it

My eldest was a nightmare sleeper and once we got her onto a good schedule, my entire day revolved around her naps. Wherever we had to go, my first thought was how it would affect her naps and timings as she was alert, inquisitive and also didn't sleep easily on the move. To achieve a pram nap, I would have to lie her flat, put on a snooze shade, add white noise and walk for upto 30 mins before she finally gave in to the exhaustion and fell asleep. THis was followed with military walking each time she stirred. Before sleep training, I walked for 2-3 hours each day to achieve one single 30min nap the entire day.

To answer your question, I did go out but was heavily restricted by when I had to be back home. She dropped the last nap of the day by 6 months so I found it easiest to get out after she woke at 2.30pm and be home by 5.30 to start bedtime routine. Any morning classes were only considered if they didn't affect her naps. It was tough but completely worth it for a happy baby all day. Also, it got easier as she got older and I didn't have to be so strict with nap times, roughly sticking to them and nap durations worked fine.

Unfortunately it is just their personality. My other child is nothing like that and will fall asleep if tired and we are out. His nap isn't as great on the move but he sleeps enough and we make sure we have lunchtime nap at home as both children nap together at that time.

Thank you everyone for your replies, its reassuring to know that not every child sleeps on the go and others have had the same issues. I just seem to hear " baby has to work around you" being thrown around which isn't helpful. Please don't think that i am out of the house all day oblivious to my babies needs, i didn't mean to sound flippant calling her a madam. Just had a particularly bad day and went to visit the inlaws and she cried the whole time we were there. I have previously avoided going when she has been tired and not napped properly and it has caused them to feel like they don't see her enough. I will try getting out and about in the mornings and back for a lunch time nap and look into a sound machine. Thanks everyone

Would you mind saying which sound machine you have or posting a link?
Thanks

I had grand plans for baby to work around me when I had my eldest too, unfortunately she decided otherwise! Unfortunately I find majority of people just don't have the ability to acknowledge that every baby is not the same and their experience is from parenting their child, not mine. Dealing with judgement is the worst part of parenting

Im not the pp who mentioned wave sound machine but we use Marpac Hushh on the move, it can be recharged from USB and plays a few different sounds, we use the white noise sound.

My eldest wasn’t able to sleep outside the house, although he would drop off in the car but wouldn’t stay asleep past 45 mins.

He needed a decent long nap in the middle of the day or holy hell would break loose in the afternoon.

He was just easily overstimulated and would wake at the drop of a pin and it was easier to plan to be home for a lunchtime nap despite everyone else’s baby being much more accommodating (and some of my friends trying desperately to “baby-whisper” him into sleeping in a pushchair/at their house for me 😂)

Do what your baby needs you to do. It felt very restrictive at the time but it doesn’t last forever and I think got us into good sleep habits in the evening as well.

Take the time to nap yourself, have some lunch, or do some exercise. Time out for you too.

Work around your needs too.

I will try getting out and about in the mornings and back for a lunch time nap and look into a sound machine.

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This is what I used to do. Out for a walk/supermarket or whatever then home for lunch and hopefully baby would nap.

@Mrssnowflake my DD is 7 months and sleeps better at home. However, we still keep busy! I bought a product called a Snoozeshade for the buggy, and it helps her nap much better in there. Maybe worth checking it out?

Mine was a great night sleeper but I couldn't be arsed with a daily nap routine that may have got in the way of our socialising! She slept on the hop, in the buggy or the car, and if we were at home she would occasionally have a decent nap in the cot. From about 12 months we did get into a better nap routine for a while whereby we would be busy in the morning and then she'd have a good nap after lunch. So would I!

Baby has to work around you.
Lol.
Not always the case, we worked around our daughter probably still really do. In the scheme of things this part is not very long and once they sleep better it's amazing the difference.
First nap having a shower n coffee quickly second nap - sleep yourself hah or doing loads of tidying usually today I am watching this is us while eating a pot noodle.

I couldn't be arsed with a daily nap routine that may have got in the way of our socialising! She slept on the hop, in the buggy or the car

The problem is all babies don't sleep like that and some of us unfortunately have to stop socialising for a routine. If we were in the car, she screamed and cried, even more so when tired and sleep was out of the question. In the buggy, she would just look around at the world and then when extremely overtired, be grumpy, irritable and cry no matter what I did. She usually settled if I put her on the breast, but the second my nipple came out of her mouth, eyes pinged open and back to grumpy because she hadn't napped. You were extremely lucky that she would have enough to get by when on the move then catch up when at home, some babies just don't fit into our lives like that unfortunately

I'm a real control freak and have always done 95% of the time I'm home for naps. Obviously if we have stuff on as a treat etc then routine is out of the window but in my day to day life with a toddler and a baby, we are home till after morning nap, then out, then back for afternoon nap, then out again till dinner and or bedtime.
Dh hates it as we seem to be the only family in our group of friends like this. It is restricting but we have 2 brilliant sleepers who are rarely grumpy or overtired and we are used to our routine and know it won't be like this forever

It won’t last forever. She does sound very tired though, I’d prioritise getting a decent sleep for her over doing too much. I know it can be maddening, and at that age I made sure I left the house every day, but can you look for activities with flexible timings? IN my area, Sure Start centres have a “stay and play” slot, which is free and you don’t need to book. If you have access to a car, you might be within a half hour drive of several, so you might be able to pencil something in for each day. If you go, you go, if you don’t, you don’t. It doesnt matter if you’re late because of sleep, or leave early because baby is getting tired/grumpy.

My DD has always had sleep issues. She didn’t work out how to connect sleep cycles till she was 18mo (trust me, I tried everything the internet could suggest!) and I got completely sick and tired of everyone telling me I “just” had to do xyz. Do what you need to do, this stage doesn’t last forever.