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How to sleep train if you share a bedroom?

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Clarabellawilliamson · 01/03/2019 09:55

DS 10 months, is still in our bedroom, where there is just enough room for a space saver cot. The thought of putting him in with DD3 is terrifying- they are both such shit sleepers I think I would just end up on the floor in their room all night while DH lounges in our bed by himself.
I need to do some sleep training because I am breaking. Last few nights I've been surviving off 20 minute chunks of sleep. The days are tiring and tough but the nights are so, so dark.
With my dd I did CC at 14 months and it saved my sanity, but she was older so she understood what was necessary (I knew she was ready when she put her dolly to bed and patted it saying night night). He is younger but if I wait much longer I will actually break, or walk out or hurt someone.
So how to do it if we share a room? I've been putting it off because I feel like my 'job' is to keep him quiet so everyone else can sleep, when he cries and wakes DD up, I just have 2 kids awake to deal with. She is currently waking 1-3 times a night too Shock
DH wants to help but both kids only want mummy, and up until now I've been doing whatever it takes to get everyone back to sleep the quickest. But this is taking its toll on me and I don't know where to start. I need some help, and some sleep, and some time alone in a dark room with no one touching me!!!

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Darkstar4855 · 01/03/2019 12:53

You could try “pick up put down” as that doesn’t involve leaving the room, however it would probably keep everyone else awake the first couple of nights.

Do you have any relatives that your daughter could stay with for a couple of nights while you sleep train? (I’m assuming by DD3 you mean your daughter is 3 rather than that she’s your third daughter).

Clarabellawilliamson · 01/03/2019 13:33

Thanks darkstar, sensible suggestion with pupd, I think I need to sit down with my husband (when it's not 3 am!) And come up with a plan together. I know that he will just say he doesn't know and it's up to me though!
No family nearby, they are a few hours away. We will be moving in August to a house with an extra bedroom, so I could just suck it up till then, but that seems like a long way away!

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GlossyTaco · 01/03/2019 13:41

I know you say that the kids don't want their dad when they wake , but he needs to step in and do some nights. I'm broken with my 17mo waking every two hours so you must be going through hell here op!

Clarabellawilliamson · 01/03/2019 21:18

Right, 3yo primed to accept daddy if she wakes up tonight Grin fingers crossed the baby sleeps!

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itshils · 15/01/2024 16:05

Hello, I know it's been a few years, but this is where I'm at, at the moment with 2 boys the same ages. Please share your good news?!

Clarabellawilliamson · 16/01/2024 21:03

Hello @itshils - I have GREAT news for you! I have NO memory of writing this at all?! If you asked me, I would have said my son was always a great sleeper? I have totally blanked it from my memory. Not helpful for you right now, but there is hope! I don't know what I ended up doing (sorry!) I think moving house and putting him in his own room made a big difference though

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