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Baby barely sleeps, is this normal?

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babyworry2018 · 19/02/2019 04:12

My 4 month old has always seemed to need a fraction of the amount of sleep she's 'supposed' to. As a newborn she could go hours and hours without sleeping and as she's our first it took us ages to realise it wasn't normal and we needed to help her nap.

At her age, she's supposed to sleep 14-16 hours a day, everything I read says she shouldn't be awake more than 2 hours at a time. But including everything- every ten min she dozes off at the boob, every hard fought nap- she's averaging 6-7 hours total in a 24 hour period.

She can go six hours without a nap, though that's rarer now. She'll only nap being walked in the pram, usually for exactly 30 min though I sometimes get an hour. So I generally get three pram naps and often one early evening where she feeds to sleep - about 2 hours in the day.

At night she'll do longer stretches but for the past week we've had two short sleeps of 45 min/1 hour between bedtime and midnight, then awake till 3 or 4am, then if I'm lucky a 3 hour sleep then up for the day.

I'm in pieces. I'm worried by how little sleep she's getting. She'll feed to sleep but instantly wake if transferred to side sleeper. The one hour sleeps before midnight only happen on my husband but he has to work so goes off duty at midnight. Her three hour sleep, if it happens, is generally after I've fed her to sleep and transferred her across a million times but for some reason it takes.

What can I do? Some nights it's better, she is capable of sleeping for five hours. Some nights it's worse and the total is three individual one hour naps over 12 hours.

Would love to hear if anyone has experienced similar and advice- I haven't come across any other babies with such low sleep totals. I feel I've tried everything and nothing has worked but we can't go on like this.

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homegrownmumma · 19/02/2019 04:19

My little one was very similar , we tried everything we could think of but nothing really helped 😩
At about 8 months things changed a little , we invested in the sleepyhead and he started to sleep for 3 hours at a time, now at 11 months he's sleeping 8pm - 1am 1am-5am then 5am- 6am , not perfect but it's getting there !
I'm not suggesting you get the sleepyhead as it costs a lot of money , he did start sleeping better when we got it but to be honest I think it was just a natural progress in his development

Daffodil2018 · 19/02/2019 04:31

Oh god, that sounds really tough. I don’t have much advice I’m afraid but have you talked to your GP/HV about it? Are you EBF or have you tried giving her formula? I am BF 90% of the time but we sometimes give our baby formula (for example if I am completely knackered and need my husband to feed her while I sleep) and I have noticed that she does sleep for longer after a formula feed.

Cardiffclare88 · 19/02/2019 04:36

Gosh that sounds really tough. Mine is still tiny but I find that more tired = less/worse sleep! All babies are different by 6 hours seems really not enough. Is a sleep consultant a possibility for you?

babyworry2018 · 19/02/2019 09:55

I've spoken to GP, HV, the nurse who runs a breastfeeding support group I go to- everyone basically says she's healthy and thriving and seems happy and some babies are outliers when it comes to sleep and it should get better soon.

I'm EBF but don't think it's hunger, she can go six hours without food. In the morning she generally wakes at 8 regardless of the night and often won't ask for a feed for an hour or so.

Yesterday we had an hour long nap on a walk, another half hour walking and a half hour after a feed around six pm. So 2 hours daytime sleep. We did bedtime routine and were in bed feeding at 8, and she slept for an hour and a half 8.30-10, fed, slept for another 15 min, fed, slept for another hour, then was awake about midnight till 1am when she slept for ten minutes, then till 4am when she slept for an hour, and 6.30am when she slept for forty min and that was after I brought her in bed with me. So basically 4 hours 15 all night after 12 hours in her cot/bed.

My understanding is she's still too young to sleep train and I wouldn't really want to do any method that involved leaving her as she so clearly is trying to sleep herself. She tosses from side to side, slams her legs down, has her eyes closed and just really
Looks like she's trying. It's not that she's crying for a feed, mostly it's her trying to sleep and me feeding her to try and help as it's the only thing that works but I do leave her for quite a while first unless she's upset. Sometimes she settles and sleeps but often it doesn't work, or the sleep only lasts a couple of minutes.

My husband works from home a couple of days a week and he can take her for a few hours in the morning then but even still I just feel like a zombie. I'm not safe to drive a car and the house is a tip and worst I don't have the energy to play with her. In spite of it all she's a happy smiley lovely baby and she just isn't getting the mummy she deserves.

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ReaganSomerset · 19/02/2019 09:59

Have you tried co-sleeping? Mine sleeps about three times as long when she's with me for naps than when she's in her cot.

Ribbonsonabox · 19/02/2019 10:03

4 months is usually quite bad for even the most sleepy of babies! My daughter is 7 months and has just started to do stretches of 6 hours during the night now. At 4 months she woke every hour!!
Lots of babies start to settle down during weaning. Now my daughter has three meals a day as well as her breastmilk she seems to sleep much more soundly during the night.
It was the same for my son too... he only slept an hour at a time at 4 months. It's a notoriously bad age for sleep.
I hope it improves soon for you... chances are it will after a couple of months x

Abbie009 · 19/02/2019 19:58

I’m having the same with my 9months old no better or worse since 1day old just seems to be more needy during the day when he has less contact at night

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