How can I put dd ‘to bed’ with this f***ing dummy saga

[BettyBoo246]

So my 14 week old dd will sleep from 7pm to 7am, which I know sounds absolutely glorious. However! I do have to plug her dummy in quite a lot during these 12 hours.

At the minute she is still sleeping downstairs from 7pm till we go up to bed around 10pm and then she’s next to me still in her crib till she wakes in the morning.

What I want to do is start putting her upstairs at 7.00pm but this is the time I’m constantly having to put her dummy in for around 1-2hrs till she gets in a deeper sleep around 9-10pm where she will then sleep till around 4-5am without wanting the dummy back in and again from 5-7am I’m constantly putting it back in.

How will I ever be able to put her to bed without me being there to ‘keep’ her asleep?

I remember those days! I’m actually impressed that at 14 weeks you’ve got yourself a good bedtime routine, I can’t remember when my dd’s started putting the dummy in by themselves, I think it was about 5-6 months.

Ellie it’s a mare isn’t it!
She’s pushing it out I’m pushing it in and it goes on like this for hours! I do not remember this with my first, maybe i’ve blocked it out
I think she will be still sleeping next to me when she’s 8-9 months old and can finally do it herself

We had this

Eventually couldn't take anymore and got rid of the dummy. She went cold turkey. Was hard the first two nights but then bliss!!!!

Currently preg with #2 and no dummy this time around!!

Good luck x

Sorry not what you asked but don't they have to be 6 months before they can sleep in a different room alone?

don't they have to be 6 months before they can sleep in a different room alone?

DS1 was 9 weeks when he went in his own room in his cot and for a week before that, he was in our room by himself (with monitor, of course) until we went up. No way he could've stayed in the basket for longer than that, he was far too long for it. I think it depends on the child.

Duct tape.

Have 2 DC both with 'dodie' addictions. Older DD, absolute hardcore dummy addict, now 3, had the fairies visit for it just before she turned 2.

Both seemed to be able to hold it in longer as they got a bit older. Once they reached 4,5,6 ish months we would leave a 'halo of dodies' in the cot, so they could scrabble around and shove one in.

DODIES TIL WE DIE

I'm going to be that poster but your DD isn't 'sleeping through' 7-7 if she is indeed waking up several times during that time.

Also yes, the guidelines are they sleep somewhere pretty close to you until 6 months.

Dh actually thinks there should be some sort of face strap device for them he’s not the brightest

We have a camera monitor and motion mat thing in her cot. All a bit pointless at the minute though! She has nearly outgrown her next to me crib though.

I can’t decide whether to go cold turkey with the dummy (even though apparently not advised anymore under 6mths) or just ride this out till she can do it herself

True ex

My dh proudly tells everyone ‘oh she sleeps 12hrs’ as if it’s something he’s achieved

Sorry OP but I will have to save this thread as an example for when a new mum comes on upset because everyone else's babies are 'sleeping through' and hers isn't.

It shows that even babies that are apparently doing 12 hours aren't at all. Sleeping through means you put them to bed and they don't need dealing with again until morning.

I don't know why people lie about this stuff!

Oh I didn’t mean to come across as lying and being all smug my dd sleeps through at all. I should have said my dd will go without a feed for 12 hours and doesn’t cry through the night.

She does sleep but only because I’m there.

She doesn’t cry for her dummy she will just wake up if I leave her to fuss for long enough.

Believe me I really am not one for oh my baby sleeps all night has done since day one blah blah blah. I currently have a 5 year old who has started waking 2-3 times a night so I know just how deflating it feels when others try to boast

OP she’s still really young to be asleep in a room on her own - guidance is that she should be with you until at least 6 months. I know you said you’ve got a motion mat and monitor, but the risk reduction is to do with the noise and CO2 of your breathing that stimulates baby to breathe. So maybe think twice about changing things just yet? As she gets older her sleep cycles will get longer, so she will naturally become less wakeful.

Chuck the dummy in the bin. That way you don't have to keep putting it back in

Yeah I know it's a pain in the bum we had a travel cot downstairs so at least it could be folded up out of the way when he wasn't asleep, but the SIDS risk is greater if they're alone while sleeping so we kept him in the room with us in the evenings until 6 months.

Yes I don’t mind her staying in our room until she’s 6 months. I just wanted to put her upstairs (in our room) at 7pm because I think the tv and other dcs keep her from falling asleep properly.
It would only be for two hours max as I go bed around 9pm anyway.
I’ll just keep my fingers crossed she’ll learn early on how to put it in herself, although my first ds still couldn’t manage to put his own dummy in at 12 months
Hv said not to take dummy off her before 6 months now due to SIDS risk

My dh proudly tells everyone ‘oh she sleeps 12hrs’ as if it’s something he’s achieved grin

Now, admittedly this makes me hate your DH with a fierce passion, so I would quite like him to suffer (half-joking - but only half), but why are you doing the dummy putting in at both 7-10pm and 5-7am? Surely he can do one of those?

Also, an afterthought - be nice and tell everyone the truth when DH boasts so that you aren't making everyone else feel shit! Your baby sleeps 9/10-5, which is pretty great, don't perpetuate the 7-7 lie!

Finding he really is an arse (not even half joking) I blame him for our 5 year old now waking through the night.. karma

To be fair he does do the 7pm ‘dummy shift’ till around 9-10pm and then he does also get up and put our ds back to bed whenever he gets up.

I am away for one night next weekend so he will actually feel the full force of dummy patrol and the dangers of it not being plugged back in in 0.5 seconds of it dropping out dds mouth

Oh I do don’t worry!

I also never say to other parents that she is a perfect sleeper of 12 hours because I know myself just how deflating it is to hear that.

Sorry I really should have written my op as ‘dd will go for 12 hours without needing a feed at night.’

I’m guessing the 4 month regression is just round the corner too so no doubt I’ll be back on here crying about that!

There was a parent that put loads of dummys in the for with dc so would always find it.Worth a shot www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/5262237/mum-dummy-baby-cot-sleep-night/

Cot not for!

I think 12 hours without a feed is pretty amazing even if you are having to put the dummy in! If you get rid of the dummy, do you have an alternative method for getting her back to sleep? Otherwise I suggest riding it out another couple of months until she's old enough for sleep training.

Well I’ve tried shushing, patting and giving her a comforter to try and hold but she’s a definite dummy addict

I think I’m going to have to just ride it out till she’s old enough to either a) put it back in herself or b) take it off her completely