Nine month old won't sleep, considering co sleeing

[Bergermurd]

My daughter is nine months and has always been a bad sleeper. I am up and down with her all night. She will sleep for ages in my arms but hates going in the cot. She keeps wanting to breastfeed all through the night. HV's advice is to try to settle her in the cot but she works herself up so much that I can't keep going with it and end up picking her up. I feel so sleep-deprived and am thinking of starting co sleeping just so that we can all try to get some rest. Please can you advise me? Should I start co sleeping at nine months if we've got this far without it? I just don't know what else to do.

Following as we are in a similar position.
Hugs xx

If you are considering cosleeping you need to read the guidelines for doing it safely.
Off the top of my head you shouldn't co sleep with premature babies, or if you smoke/drink/take drugs (even prescription ones that impact your sleep), should only co sleep if breastfeeding, not next to dad/siblings, no blankets/pillows near baby (there might be other things)

Once you know its safe though its a game changer for some. I still cosleep with my 18m old and don't think I'd get any sleep otherwise. My first was the same and now at 3 he sleeps mostly happily in his own bed, although would like to share with us and sometimes gets in.

I have always started them off in the cot at their bedtime and then bring them into bed when they wake up nearer my bedtime. I'm hoping one night she'll just stay asleep!

Do it
As pp said look up the guidelines on how to do it safely. I co-slept with both my breastfed babies for many months. 5 and 3 yrs old now but both sleeping in their own beds in their own room. Co-sleeping is not forever. Absolutely do what will work for you now

My DD was around 9m when we started co-sleeping. Same reasons- hated the cot, I ended up falling asleep with her in the bed accidentally anyway after night feeds so then we set up a floor bed. I couldn’t let her cry either, it made my anxiety levels soar so I couldn’t sleep.

It was also a concession to her starting nursery/getting ill etc. Plus they’re so much sturdier in bed at 9m than when they’re tiny.

She’s 13m and still co-sleeping so I can’t tell you when it ends but I think this is probably the best way for all of us to get some sleep. It’s not what I set out to do but I don’t think I really had a choice.