Losing my mind

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I've posted here before about my daughter not sleeping, and I have tried too many methods, crying it out, co-sleeping, putting her in the cot next to me, putting her in her own room and nothing is working.

We have a good routine, she has two naps during the day combining to 2-3 hours and then she's bathed at 6;30 and bed by 7.. she goes down completely fine, and is asleep within a couple of minutes.

Then the problems start, every 40 minutes up until about 11pm she wakes up screaming, I go in put her dummy back in and walk out and she settles for another 40 minutes and then repeats this.

Then she is awake by 12am and stays awake till between 3/4am where I don't acknowledge her being awake so she starts to hit her head on the side of the cot and then screams, she eventually falls asleep about 4:30 and sleeps till 6:30.

I have been to her doctor today and they've gave me saline drops because she 'could have' enlarged adenoids and they should help her sleep.. but they just thought that because she was congested today.. she has never ever been a good sleeper and it's just gradually getting worse.

I feel like I'm losing my mind and I don't know what to do.. I'm living on about 2 hours sleep a night and I'm so sleep deprived.

It just seems like habit, as she naps perfectly in her own room and cot. Just looking for advice or to know I'm not the only one😫

How old is she?

16 months @crazycatlady5

At 16 months you could probably drop to 1 nap a day. My daughter did at about 15 months because there was really loud building work going on in the flat above us and they would stop for an hour or so in the middle of the day - so that was the only time I could get her down for a nap.
Also waking every 40 mins - seems like she's waking at the end of each sleep cycle and can't get back to sleep again. How does she fall asleep when you put her down the first time in the eve? One of the things Richard Ferber talks about in his book is when children go to sleep by rocking / feeding etc then they can struggle going back to sleep in the night when the conditions have changed. So get her used to falling asleep in a dark quiet room in the first place.
My daughter would also (and still occasionally does at 2) wake up and cry for me to find her dummy. I tied the dummy to a piece of material to make it easier for her to find herself in the night. Also might help?

If you haven't tried already I do recommend 'Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems' by Ferber. It's basically the Controlled Crying method. But you should really read the book before doing it as he recommends different approaches for different problems / scenarios etc.