Please help 9m old will not lie down Aghh!

[clairabelle]

My ds is 9m old and always been a fairly good sleeper until he was mobile. Now every nap time is a nightmare, he is shattered but insists on rolling on to his front and standing up at his cotside and crying.It takes up to half an hour of leaving him crying and going back in to settle him until he finally falls asleep. He even does this when he has practically dropped off. It's driving me insane.

My 10m ds did exactly the same a few weeks ago, it lasted for about a week, with him getting cross and me resettling him, then he just seemed to stop it, almost like the novelty had worn off for him. Did drive me bonkers though!

Thank god so there may be light at the end of the tunnel

anyone else got any ideas?

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cuddle him till almost asleept hen put him in
hold his head down and stroke it

thanks angryfish but i've tried that the minute he goes down nearly asleep or not he squirms on to his tummy and then straight up, the poor child is exhausted.

If he's only troublesome at nap time,

1. try putting him in his pram, in a quiet room,
2. take him out for a walk at nap time in his pram.
3. rock him to sleep in your arms whilst singing, that worked with mine,

otherwise loose a nap if there's more than two in the day.

Hope some of these help.

I must be a cruel cruel mother.

Mine started been like this once she started crawling, apparently its quite normal because they still want to explore even though they are exhausted.

At first we brought her back down stairs for 30 mins, which worked for about a week. But she started doing it when we put her down again.

With 2 other children to deal with at bed time,
in the end i just had to leave her. She still wails her head off at 1 year old but only for about 30 seconds and then instantly falls fast asleep. Quite amusing really.

I'm sorry but I have little time for this stroke the head business. What they really want is sleep and to me that just prolongs the agony for them.

At this age they are starting to test what they can get away with cos' there gorgeous little monkeys. Or as my dad would say "A truck load of monkeys"

I'd just be patient, make sure there safe, shut the door and go somewhere were you can't hear them. Works a treat for your sanity and the baby gets his/her sleep.

goodkate you're obviously a woman after my own heart, went through nightmare sleep scenarios with dd and I'm not playing this time the thing is he won't lie down just gets very cross. Does yuor dd just get fed up and lie down?

Yes she does. She is my third so I'm no soft touch anymore.

Obviously if she's been crying for more than 20 mins then I get a bit worried and will go in after 30. But after the first few times I think she got the message and now goes down after 30n secs.

This is a good one. At 18 months my brothers little boy wouldn't fall asleep anywhere but his mothers lap. Having tried everything else possible they had to be cruel to be kind. So one night they decided enough was enough. They put him in his bed and shut his door and opened a bottle of wine and turned the music up. He cried for 1.5 hours before he finally fell asleep. It was the hardest thing they have ever done in their lives.

From that day to this they never had another problem and he even asks to go to bed by 8 o'clock. He's 6 now and a lovely little boy.

It is hard but worth it in the end

Good luck

My dd's quite a bit older than your ds clairabelle but started doing this when she was 15 months old, just standing up in the cot and calling my name and getting basically hysterical when I went in. I aborted daytime sleeps as she'd just say my name over and over for so long (it really didn't work just leaving her, she once went on for almost 2 hours, very persistent) it was way past any reasonable nap time. But we followed a consistent cc plan for bedtime and it took a couple of days before she just stopped doing it. She's started it again just lately (23 months now), exactly the same thing and I'm beginning to think I may have to cut daytime cot naps altogether this time though we've got over the problem now at bedtime.

Do you think your ds might be over-tired? I know when dd's over-tired she's kind of irrationally physically active if that makes sense.

quite possibly overtired as both daytime sleeps today have been longer than normal but then this could be because the 'ritual' is wearing him out Having said all this he was slightly better tonight. I bathed him and put him in his cot with the light on and a toy and left him for 10minutes until he started shouting then went up with his bottle, cuddled and fed him put him in his cot and turned the light off. I only had to go back in twice. I felt as though I just needed to stop the cycle, normally I would bath him and feed him straight away and then put him down. Perhaphs by putting him in his cot first it was like a bit of time out. Oh well we will see. Thanks for all the advice. Brave parents goodkate I couldn't last that long. DD used to do this and she would just vomit if I didn't go in She's a fab sleeper now though.