How long is ok to leave 11 week old to settle

[MrsMaow]

My 11 week old baby will settle herself well at night, she goes to bed when we do around 10.30ish and falls asleep on her own usually within 10 minutes (I know I’m lucky with this)

During the day though she’ll only nap on me - I love the cuddles, but I could really do with her having at least one nap in her basket during the day so I can do the essential housework, as at the moment I have to do that with her watching me from her bouncy chair when she is awake. I’d like to be able to get the boring stuff done while she’s asleep so we can use her awake time for playing in her gym etc.

So anyway, when I put her down during the day when I know she’s sleepy she just looks at me and smiles, whatever I do. It’s adoravke but isn’t sleeping! So I try to leave her to fall asleep on her own as obviously I’m a distraction, but she’ll just lie there wide eyed and yawning. How long is it ok for me to leave her to settle herself for sleep? I’d pick her up straight away if she cries, but if she’s just lying there happily silent or making her little noises?

I’ve done 15 minutes max so far but I don’t want her to feel abandoned so I pick her up and she falls asleep on me pretty much instantly.

BTW I wish I could wear her as that would solve it but I have a back and shoulder issue that make it impossible at the moment

TIA

If not crying I wouldnt feel obliged to pick her up. Does she fall asleep in a buggy if you went on a walk around nap time?
If crying, at this age, I wouldnt leave them to self settle.

If not upset, I don't pick my DS up and haven't done since birth. If he is upset then of course, I will pick him up and help him go to sleep.

Don't leave the baby to cry but if she's not crying I wouldn't feel guilty! She would let you know if she needed you

Thanks for the input I will try my best to leave her to it til she sleeps/gets upset and see how it goes

When mine were that young they would quite happily sit in the bouncy chair and doze when they felt like it! Thats how i got stuff done

Update - I kept trying, left her for up to 45 minutes til she started to get upset, then picked her up and predictably she fell asleep on me straight away.

I’ve tried something different today - put her in her basket in its usual place, same white noise as at night but lights on, put her in a sleeping bag rather than being swaddled like she is at nights, and sat next to her holding her hand but not making eye contact, and she fell asleep!! She’s there now, I’m in the lounge, got the monitor on and we live in a flat so she’s only about 10 metres away from me.

I miss her and my lap feels empty. I might go and get her for cuddles

Somebody please tell me I probably ruined the ok nights we’ve been having by doing this!!