Cot to bed

[cornflakegirl]

I know this has been done before but...

DS is just 2. DH wants to move him to a bed - basically because he thinks DS is growing up and it's time.

I'm not convinced. DS seems perfectly happy in his bed, is still in nappies, so probably a way off needing to use the toilet at night, and although generally a good sleeper, still has nights where he mucks about going to sleep, or wakes up in the night.

I can't see a lot to gain from moving DS to a bed, but a fair bit to lose. But I don't want to throw cold water on DH if I'm just being overly pessimistic. DH is also a SAHD, so I kind of feel that he has the right to decide this sort of thing.

So - am I being unreasonable?

Depends on ds, I'd say. We moved ds1 into a big boy's bed when he was about 21m, but only because he's so big he actually snapped the base of the cot. Wouldn't otgherwise have done it, it was a nightmare. He doesn't do change very well, and it took 2 months for him to adjust. That's TWO months of him not sleeping until late, getting up very early, frequent returns to bed, screams, overtired toddler... Nightmare.

If, however, your ds copes with change well, then go for it. dsis moved her dd at a similar age, and never had a second's problem.

Personally, though, after our experience I'd say what's the rush? Don't hurry up his growing up. (or if it ain't broke etc!)

theres no harm in trying. id try with a bedguard

also, to add, both my dds went into a big girls bed at age 24months, no bother at all. i think cos i used the bedguard they didnt realise for ages that they could get in and out on their own

My dd has just got her single bed and she is four.

I am a SAHM but I love my DH's input. You still have a say you know

We have a bedguard. (Just to be the pessimist)

we've just done this (ds was 2 in march). i've been pushing this for the last 6 months but dh was v. anti but when ds climbed out of his cot i won the arguement!

pros: makes it easier to stay with people, dc has more space, good to do it before terrible twos kick in (i.e gets out of bed because he shouldn't ),you can lie in bed with him while reading him a story,

cons: bit of a fag to organise, need to make his room safe, put stairgate up, may have a few restless nights

can you put a matress on the floor in his room so you can alternate and see how it goes?

DS has a pretty small room. It will hold a bed OR a cot - so once we change, we're fairly committed! Not much to babyproof in there though - there's no room for anything!

2Happy - yup, that's what I'm scared of!

Hadn't thought about the bit of staying with people. Actually, it would kind of make that harder - we go round to friends most Fridays, and put DS down in a travel cot in their room... not sure how they'd feel about him sleeping in their bed! (They don't have spare beds - their kids are in them.)

We put dd in her big girl's bed for the first time last night. She's 26 months & has slept on our bed in her sleeping bag for the last 6 months as ds' cot was in our room & she thought he was getting something past her It's a cabin bed but we just put the base & mattress on the floor & we'll keep it like that 'til she's big enough for the bed to be set up properly.

She took a while to go to sleep but I just sat in the corner 'til she dozed off. It was also ds' first night in their room so probably it made it a bit easier moving both through together.

Me & dh shared a bed last night for the first time in 6 months

What's the rush? Dd was out of her cot at about 23 months to make way for arrival of ds. He stayed in the cot til he was four and has only just made the move. We tried earlier as he had a bed and a cot in his room, but however many times we snuggled up for a story in his big boys bed he always wanted to sleep in the cot (although by that stage he nearly touched both ends of it). He could climb in and out, never injured himself, but just seemed to prefer the security of the bars and as there was no queue for cot it made no odds to me. It was also very useful that he would continue to sleep in a travel cot for such a long time - for the first time this summer we will need four beds when we go on holiday.

We have told DD1 that Daddy will make her cot a big girls bed when she has her 3rd birthday in 3 weeks. We said we wouldn't move her into a bed until she could climb out that hasn't happened yet and we just feel she is getting too old for a cot, also we will have to get a proper bed and move all cots along one when DB3 arrives.

I also think if it ain't broke don't fix it.

i moved ds this afternoon and it took an hour and a half to get him to go to sleep, he kept getting up to get toys, he finally went to sleep with a load of cars in the bed, he's 27 months

Ds1 is 2.8 and still in a cot. It's a pretty huge one with loads of room and he seems very happy in it. We've put a big bed up in his room just so he can get used to it but he's not interested in going in the big bed. Apparently (according to ds1) that's where I'm supposed to sleep.

I am a great believer in "if it ain't broke don't fix it".

Hmmm... second night running last night of DS taking over an hour to settle - and that's without moving him out of a cot. I think he's staying in it till he leaves home!

Mind you, he does look very cute snuggling down under a duvet...

ds has took to the bed like a duck to water and has even been sleeping longer in the mornings

hmmm... DS woke me at 6.15 this morning... maybe he does need a bed