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Why does my baby not sleep?? Help!!

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mum2bemay22 · 24/01/2019 19:11

My DS is nearly 9 months old and he does not sleep! He used to sleep up until about one month ago. Now he wakes every half an hour and he won’t nap during the day unless he is being held which is getting hard to cope with. When he goes to bed at night he has the same routine he has had since he was about 6 weeks old, he has his dinner, he has a bath and then he gets ready for bed (this is all done in a dim light so he knows it’s time to settle down). I then sit in the nursing chair next to his cot and give him his bottle. He will almost instantly fall asleep. That’s when it begins...! I put him down in his cot, either he will wake crying almost instantly, I try to put my hand on his chest to reassure him I am still there and sometimes this works and he will drift back off and sometimes it doesn’t. If he has gone to sleep I will leave the room, he will sleep for half an hour and then he is back up crying. I go back in and rock him for a little while then try putting him back down and that’s when he won’t sleep anymore. This goes on for hours every evening until eventually it becomes relentless and he comes into bed with me when I go to bed, once he is in my bed, he will go off to sleep until 5am but I don’t want this to become the norm but unfortunately it’s the only way him and I are getting any form of sleep. During the day, I try really hard to keep a routine with naps but again, same thing! If he gets put down, I’m done for!
Can anybody help me or give advise? I feel like I’m a terrible parent who can’t do anything to help him and I’m really getting down!

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MyBabyBoyBlue · 24/01/2019 19:15

I went through the same when my DS was about 9-10 months and previously he had been sleeping through. My HV said it probably coincides with a developmental leap. No really magic advice, but we changed up his routine a bit for more of a winddown and this is bedtime sort of thing and that seemed to work some of the time. But many nights he just ended up in our bed and we were both shattered zombies. My DS is now 15 months old and has mostly been sleeping through the night from 12 months old. It does get easier.

mum2bemay22 · 24/01/2019 19:20

How did you change his routine? This is something I am considering too but not sure what to adjust! I have tried a later bedtime but then he just screams 😔

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PoutySprout · 24/01/2019 19:21

8 months sleep regression.

Ride it out.

SeaToSki · 24/01/2019 19:24

Double check he doesn't have an ear infection or a UTI. Then decide if you are going to try cio or gradual retreat or something like that. He has figured out if he cries, you will come back, and of course he wants you .. he loves you

mum2bemay22 · 24/01/2019 19:26

He did have an ear infection about three weeks ago, he completed his course of antibiotics and is now all ok thankfully! I do take his temp when he gets really upset but he has been fine. When he had an ear infection he had a temp to 38.9. I know, he has definitely worked out I come back when he cries but very tiring every evening 😔

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crazychemist · 24/01/2019 19:47

Mine had a bad patch at 10months when she was suddenly getting very much more mobile. Is this the stage that your son is at? I used to watch her sleeping and she’d start fidgeting in her sleep and then wake herself up. The health visitor told me that their brains “practice” walking, pulling up etc in their sleep as they learn the new skill, and this can disturb the first sleep cycle as it is a light one. She also said that poor naps can mean they are overtired, which leads to waking up between sleep cycles.

Her suggestion (which worked after about two weeks) was to hold her, or rock her, or do whatever to get good naps, and then she wouldn’t be overtired and once she had got the hang of whatever physical milestone it was she would be ok again. That seemed to work quite well for us.

dubbyoo · 24/01/2019 20:12

Could it be the first stage of separation anxiety starting? I think I remember a wave of it around 9/10 months. Waking every half hour all night sounds terrible. Are you getting any support?

crazycatlady5 · 26/01/2019 11:51

8-10 month sleep regression.

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