I weaned my 9 month old off night feeds 4 weeks ago - but I've had to sleep on the sofa since as if she knows I'm in the room she goes mental and wakes constantly.
The reason we weaned (other than her being 9 months old!!) is that she was waking every hour. She now sleeps much better - some nights going from 8pm till 4.30am. I still feed her at 4.30am as I think she's genuinely hungry.
Problem is (apart from me sleeping on the blimming sofa) she used to be easy to put down, for naps and in the evening (even though she woke every hour) but now she's raging and beside herself, even if being held or stroked or sung to/etc/whatevs.
We are happy cosleeping and we're not happy to do controlled crying. We have tried putting her in a cot but that is in my 4yos room and she has to get a good nights sleep for school, so the baby has to stay with us for now. We're in a flat in quite close quarters so we can't go off to the spare room or anything like that.
I know we could offer her a bottle at 4.30 but I don't really have time to express every day and I don't want to give her formula (no judgment - just personal preference).
I weaned my eldest off night feeds at 8m and continued to cosleep for another 4m after that. But this girl just won't get with the programme... and whilst our sofa isn't too uncomfortable I think we need to try and do something rather than hope it'll get better.
She has had 8 teeth come through in 3 months which has def affected things but we can't keep using that as excuse to ignore the bad patterns we're getting into.
Arg! Massive post, sorry. If anyone has read this far and has any advice we'd be so grateful.