5 month old won't go to bed!!

[Ooplesandbanoonoos]

Hi looking for some advice.
5 month old is EBF (refuses bottle). As newborn she was a fairly good sleeper, was able to go good stretches at night early on etc. This continued with stretches at night getting longer and still napping in day easily whatever was going on arround her albeit in no set routine.

However challenges developed when she was no longer oblivious to noise etc and we had to put to bed rather than just have her snooze in the living room in Moses basket. We began spending hours every evening trying to settle her to bed but then she would sleep 3-5 hour stretches once asleep.

The 4 month sleep regression hit and for a few weeks she was up every 1-2 hours and fighting naps in the day. This has calmed a bit and she maybe goes 3 hours at a time at night now but naps in the day can now only be achieved in the pram and she can take hours to settle for bed from 6.30/7 onwards then wakes every hour until finally settling about 11pm. Noise and light when out in the pram don't wake her and she does not stir in the morning and seems to sleep deeply from 6/7am till 9/10am even when lights on as DH getting ready for work.
Have tried white noise and patting and shushing. She won't take a dummy.
Generally I feed to sleep now and resort to cosleeping as this is the only way she settles. DH never manages to settle her.

Any advice about helping her settle into sleep easier at night and for naps?

Sorry op this won't help but you have described my dd..... we would have a few good days then back to constant waking.... around 10 months I finally started to get her to nap on the sofa after going to sleep on me

Night time we did the dissapearing chair and a light version of letting her cry. I would lie by her cot holding her hand..... it was relentless.

However by about 13/14 months she self settles alot more and would go through the night alot more... now going into 18 month sleep regression and growth spurt.

Keep persevering it will get better and at this age just do what you need to do.

I distinctly remember at 4/5 months old falling asleep stroking her hair listening too plinky plonk music on my phone app.

DH has resorted to taking her out in the pram now so we can all hopefully go to bed! All I hear is 'my baby sleeps 7-7' and I just want to cry.
Glad you are finally getting somewhere. I guess there is hope!

My little girl was exact the same at around 6 months, she was awful settling at night. She would previous go down well naps included, and then all of a sudden just wouldn't settle at bedtime and if she did we would have her up every hour just about until like you said finally off at 11ish. We did the same and husband ended up pushing her round our village until she settled off as we've got a 2 year old so didn't want to risk waking him either.

Not much I can offer in advice other than this suddenly did pass for us, one minute we were in the thick of it with no evening time for us what so ever. The next minute she started settling down again and we got some evening time back! She is starting to nap better too, fights it a little but so much better than she was. Just praying she wants to start sleeping through the night soon.

But hang on in there, it sounds like a dreaded phase like we had and it did pass within a few weeks.

Thank you @newlymummy

Cursed myself..... dd woke up at 11.30.... eventually gave ibuprohen, woke again at 12.30, found dummy went back to sleep... woke again at 1.... gave Calpol.... 1.30... bottle of milk..... 4.30 had to locate dummy again..... 6.30 she found her own dummy and gave me 10 minutes to shower before shouting for me or milk....

I am putting it down to teeth and growth spurt.... in work and want to nap....

Typically dh is away for a few nights but drafted in mum to stay and help me before tiredness means I get yet another cold.

It does get better.... that's what I am told.... when they nice move out