Routine

[Courtney609]

Easiest way to train your baby into a night time routine and is it okay to leave them to cry when you put them down to sleep when there fed, changed and winded?

What age?

5 weeks he just cry's all the time to be picked up I'm trying to get him out of it but I hate hearing him cry 😔

No I wouldn't leave a 5 week old to cry. He is telling you he needs you so pick him up

It depends what you mean by "cry". If he's crying and upset then yes you should pick him up and comfort him. He's tiny and will need to be near you a lot, as you're all he knows.

If he's making little grumbles then you can wait and see if he will settle.

He is far too young to be concerned about sleep routines and trying to make him sleep to a schedule.

Please don't leave your baby to cry, he's telling you he wants you. Do you have someone to help you so you can have a bit of down time?
Mine used to cry all the time at that age, I introduced a dummy at 7 weeks to try and help, turned out to be silent reflux in the end.
It is hard but it won't be forever so enjoy the snuggles while you can.
If you have a birthing ball try holding the baby and bouncing gently on that! X

I was told that they are ment to be getting 16 hours sleep but my little fella only getting 6-8 hours so I thought a sleep routine would help bare in mind he has colic

Please don't leave such a young baby with colic to cry, I know it's painful, but how about trying to get him to nap in a sling?

At 6 weeks he’s far far too young. He will still be adjusting to the outside world and want his mum for comfort. I’m sat here with my 6 months now just about to put him back down.

Can you console safely? I know it’s not ideal but personally I found that the only way to get any rest in those early weeks. Have you read about the 4th trimester?

I think anything other than a bedtime routine at that age is ambitious. For the first three months I was all about cuddling and comforting and forgetting everything else. Definitely don't leave them to cry. They just want to be near you and feel safe. But I do think they cry for a reason (although granted sometimes they just cry!) so maybe if your gut tells you something isn't right, try to eliminate things like reflux, colic, ear infection, try cranial osteopath even - maybe baby had a bit of tough time in labour and needs sons adjusting? Good luck

My 5 week old has colic! Have you tried some colic drops in his bottle? This has really helped us. We use Dentinox.

As for the sleep routine, I wouldn’t bother. I tried that last week when I was desperate for something to work. 5 days of getting up at the same time every day, a play in the morning, a walk in the afternoon, bath at the same time in the evening...yeah it didn’t make a hint of difference other than completely exhaust me. The baby hasn’t had a bath in 3 days now and I couldn’t care less.

I think that's 16hours total, So includes daytime naps. Not 16hrs per night.

This is normal
Most babies don't sleep though the night and beed comfort
My 2yo is still up several times each night
They cry because they need you

What Planespotting said.

Babies rarely sleep through at this age, I'm sorry if you thought it would be different. Research says that half of 12 month olds need their parents to help them settle at some point in the night.

They need to know that you are close and are there to protect and look after them.

Some things that might help them to sleep is swaddling, white noise and using a T-shirt that you or your DH has worn as the sheet on the crib

This book should help you too

Can I ask how you are feeling too?