Lo refuses to be put down. Help please

[Silentnight87]

6 day old baby girl currently cluster feeding for around 12 hours at night. Main issue is refusing to be laid down. No matter how long I hold her asleep before putting her down she will be up within 5 minutes crying to be fed again. As you can imagine, to say it's very tiring is an understatement.

My husband has tried to take her, but she doesn't take to him and will cry after 10-15 minutes.

I've tried leaving my smell in the cot. Nothing seems to work. I don't want to co-sleep if possible. Any advice will be welcome.

Hi
I'm currently up feeding my almost 4 week old. We had the same probably, she absolutely hated her Moses basket. The only thing that works for us is swaddling. Some people like it and some don't but our midwife recommended trying it.

Our friend also recommended Ewan the Dream Sheep and he's been an absolute dream, she lies in her Moses basket and falls asleep watching him.

Hope those tips help, I know how hard it is when they won't sleep anywhere except on you but you will get there x

Co-sleeping is the biological norm (we evolved to co-sleep) - I did it with both of mine and got loads of sleep! Please consider reading up on safe co-sleeping. Cluster feeding at night helps to boost milk production so night feeds are vital at this stage. Good luck!

Sympathies this is the hard bit. My lo sometimes wouldn't lie flat if she had any wind? She couldn't get comfy - have you searched fourth trimester as well?
We also did swaddling you don't need an thing fancy - just a cellular blanket x

Best thing I have is a sleepyhead as my baby girl feels so secure in it and it fits into a next to me crib which she is still sleeping in at almost 5 months. I didn't need to swaddle. Expensive piece of kit but worth every penny x

Thank you. Where is the best place to look this up. Everywhere I look has the same basic advice. Don't smoke. Use duvets etc.

Thanks

No one tells you newborns don't like being put down! It was a shock to me! But they eventually settle a bit better with swaddling. Co sleeping got me through the early weeks. The lullaby trust website has everything you need to know

Read up on the 4th trimester.

Kelly Mom website is a good site for information.

La Leche League GB is also a good website.

Good luck. It's hard but totally normal x

For the first couple of months of his life, the only way I could get a decent break was for DP to have a bath with DS1.

He did get better, but DP was basically having 45 minute baths with him every day for quite a while!

And we ended up co-sleeping - pretty much saved my sanity - I barely remember the first few weeks I was so sleep deprived.

I co-slept a bit although DS didn't like safe co sleeping and wanted to be propped on my chest so didn't sleep much. When he did deign to lie down flat in bed I lay absolutely still and had such a stiff back as a result - so really not my ideal sleep solution. DS seems to like the cot on its highest setting with the head end propped up to our bed, which certainly makes me happier!

DC slept on my chest for the first two months. Seriously not ideal and not recommended. I then caved and bought a Cocoonababy. Seriously, I've raved about it to everyone since. They slept 5 hours on the trot in it (admittedly it's all gone to shit since!). They then graduated to a Sleepyhead.

The idea of the fourth trimester saved my sanity. I was beating myself up about the fact DC wouldn't sleep on their own but really, they're so tiny they just want to be near you.