Feeling desperate

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My 3rd daughter is 9 months old and a terrible sleeper and I’m feeling so at my end with no idea what to do.

I breastfeed and co-sleep but during the evening she ‘sleeps’ in her cot. Without fail every evening she wakes up 30 mins after I put her down (using her dummy and rocking her to sleep). Initially I get her back to sleep with the dummy but after the first wake up I normally have to feed her back to sleep. The wake ups are between 30 mins and 1 hour apart.

I desperately want my evenings back, I’m so tired and up to now I’ve kept telling myself that it will pass eventually. I’m wondering if there’s anything gentle I can do to help her to sleep for longer periods but I’m also so tired I don’t know if I have the energy to do anything different! Just feeling so tired. Any similar experiences?

Hey just had a read of your post, and as you can see the time it’s pretty consistent with us too. But after a couple of hours of going down to sleep in the evening our 10 month old will wake crying. It was 2 hours of shhing and him going back to sleep for 10 mins and repeat. Not sure if this is a regression, teething or that he now has his own bedroom?

Put your mattress on the floor and she might slept better because it smells of you

Hi my 6month old has started waking every 45 mins needing cuddling back to sleep, have you had any luck with your little one?

Do you think it might be about consistency? If she's in her cot to start with then gets moved to your bed she might feel unsettled during the first half of the evening - knowing she will move later? Maybe try one or the other and see if that helps?

No improvements here... it may be about consistency but I’m afraid I don’t have the energy to do anything except take her to bed after about 10pm!