Hi thanks for reading and sorry it's long. Just to say as I know this will get suggested co sleeping is not an option - DS didn't like it when I tried previously, I am now on medication for rheumatoid arthritis that makes me drowsy and DH works night shifts
My beautiful DS is destroying me. He is 8 months, EBF and until 4 months was sleeping pretty well - 5-6 hour stretches, up for a feed, back down. Then he hit 4 months and the regression, and it all went to hell. He wakes every 45 mins all night and usually needs a feed to settle. I am an absolute mess, I cry all the time, I am sick and exhausted, I keep hoping it will get better but I am losing the will to carry on. I dread the nights and start feeling panicky as evening approaches. I feel like I have PND but brought on by sleep deprivation if that's possible.
The new and awful problem is DS has decided he doesn't like his next2me crib anymore. He goes down OK in it for naps (rocked or fed to sleep) and OK for the beginning of bedtime (usually fed to sleep, sometimes rocked). Then he wakes up after an hour and becomes completely hysterical if I try to put him back in the crib. Over the last few days it has taken up to 50 attempts each night to settle him back, with hysterical screams and tears. He then wakes after 45 mins and the same happens again when I try to put him back down. Even f I wait for him to be in a deep sleep in my arms, if I shush, sing, pat him, hold his hands etc etc, he just wakes immediately and becomes more and more hysterical in the hours 8-1am. After that it usually only takes a few attempts each time I try to put him down but by the time I've got back to sleep myself he is up again. I seem to spend hours 8-1 walking him round the bedroom. On Wednesday night after many feeds and rocks I left him in his crib screaming but held his hands and tried to reassure him the whole time hoping he would cry himself to sleep. After 90 mins of this I gave up and fed him again, which began the whole awful cycle again.
Sorry if this doesn't make sense I am so exhausted.
DS has a dummy and a MyHummy playing white noise all night. He is on solids but doesn't eat much. HE naps ok in he day in his crib so why is this happening at night
Please help I feel so stuck. Don't know to get him to sleep. I don't even mind if he wakes a couple of times in the night for feeds, I just need more than 45 min bursts and this new awful screaming is breaking my heart.