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14 week old sleep questions

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Lenny1987 · 09/01/2019 23:30

I think my 14week old has been going through a sleep regression for the last fortnight, up between once every half hour to 2 hours a night. But this week we have also successfully got him to go to sleep in his bed himself, between 7 and 8 depending on when he indicates he is tired. He struggles downstairs with us now to sleep as gets too interested in light or tv or noise etc. But what does everyone do then? Do i turn the monitor on and check on him, or stay with him? I have been staying with him but I'm not sure it's practical every evening.

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Mississippilessly · 10/01/2019 04:57

Hi!
We are in the same boat. SIDs advice is you stay with them and we have been so tired that's what we have done. But it means we barely have time to eat. No one tells you how to do this stuff!

tryinganewname · 10/01/2019 05:08

There's been quite a lot of threads on this over the past couple of weeks. You'll get a complete mixture of those who had babies in their own room from birth and those who wouldn't until baby is at least 6 months.

Personally, DD has been put down to bed at 7/8pm in our room since she was around 7 weeks old (she's 6 months next week) and we've had the monitor on, we would then go to bed around 9/10pm. She was completely unable to sleep in the room with us and the noise of TV, dogs, food being eaten so there was no other choice.

She moved into her own room the week before Xmas once the sleep regression had started to calm down and has been much better since. (Except tonight when she's decided that sleeping on her side is what she does now but then wakes up when she rolls back in her sleep ).

Reccy2018 · 10/01/2019 05:16

Agree you'll get those that follow the advice to the letter and those that don't.

I didn't, my daughter went up to bed in her next to me crib in our room at 8ish from around 3 months and we went to bed about 10.30.

The advice is to keep them with you as your movement and breathing prevents them from falling into such a deep sleep that they stop breathing. Between 1 and 4 months is peak time for sids apparently.

It's totally up to you - the advice is there for a reason but it's obviously a miniscule risk. A dummy also reduces the risks of sids for example but not everyone uses one

HoneyWheeler · 10/01/2019 05:21

Agree with PPs, you'll get a range of responses and you have to do what you feel comfortable with. I think our DS was in his snuzoid in our room by about 8 at 3/4 months, but then quite often we'd go to bed at 8:30/9 so that we got some decent sleep as he was up a lot! But when that calmed down he was in our room and we'd be downstairs and check on him occasionally

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Lenny1987 · 10/01/2019 07:00

Thanks all. At the moment I too am going to bed pretty early, so might do that for a week or so and then look at monitors for an hour or so.

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SnuggyBuggy · 10/01/2019 07:08

I kept mine down with me and kind of regret it because she now won't sleep away from me at all. I'm in a really slow process of getting her to have some of her evening sleep alone.

Mississippilessly · 10/01/2019 08:25

Snuggy the constant questioning and doubt is exhausting isn't it. You cant do right for doing wrong.

SnuggyBuggy · 10/01/2019 08:33

You can't, there is almost no practical guidance for how to actually implement this 6 month rule. I did (in the very early weeks when I could actually put her down asleep!) leave the room to use the toilet or get a drink but I've since heard it suggested I shouldn't even have left to do that.

With two kids you'd just have to hope you have a baby that can go in a pram or sling and sleep through the older child's noise. Otherwise you'd have to choose between keeping the baby awake and overtired all day to supervise the older child, sitting in a quiet room with the baby and leaving the older child unsupervised or hiring another adult to look after one of them.

Mississippilessly · 10/01/2019 08:48

Exactly! I think this might be one of those things u only follow for the first one! Evenings are so stressful, DH and I run round like headless chickens in order to eat and ideally wash up and then get DS to bed on time. It's a weird existence.
At the moment I dont mind going to bed cos I'm so tired but if his sleep improves (haha( I may go to monitimor after 20 weeks

SnuggyBuggy · 10/01/2019 08:51

In hindsight I would have started putting her upstairs at 4 months after the cluster feeding stopped. That said with the 4 month regression it may not have made a difference.

surreygirl1987 · 10/01/2019 15:16

My son has been put to bed at 7pm for the last month's, so I guess that's from around 9 weeks old. Stupidly, I didn't even consider the SIDs risk in this context! Last week, when he turned 12 weeks, we decided that I'd move back into the master bedroom and leave him on his own in his nursery overnight. I don't think the baby has noticed, as I left him at 7pm! I was waking him up as I move a lot in my sleep. I now realise that that's what prevents sids! We do have an excellent breathig monitor but i do realise they're not guaranteed to make a difference and no research as yet shows they prevent sids. Thst said, the risk IS minimal... and 6 months is a long time, especially to lose your evenings! I guess it depends on the level of risk you're comfortable with. My breathing monitor reassures me just about enough, though sometimes i am wary...

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