Night weaning has made no difference - help!

[TwinkleStars15]

I’ve spent the last week night weaning my 18 month old daughter. She’s fed to sleep but then no milk during the night until 5am, and then usually she’ll go back to sleep for another hour or two if I’m lucky!

But, it’s made no difference whatsoever to her waking, she is still waking 4-6 times a night and I am so tired and so fed up. I go in, lay her back down, give her a cuddle and when she’s gone back off I leave.

Other info - she’s in her own bed, own room - we co slept for the first 9 months and then again 12-16 months due to house move - she doesn’t seem to like being on her own at night - I work 4 days a week - she loves breastfeeding and if I’m home will want it a lot, for food, comfort, when she’s tired etc - I don’t want to stop feeding her all together as she’s not ready - she’s never had a dummy or a comforter.

Do I just give up and accept that she’s not going to sleep better anytime soon?
Do I bring her back in with us but still might wean and see if that helps?
Do I keep hoping it’s the 18 month sleep regression and it’ll get easier very soon?!

Any tips would be great, I can feel my mood getting lower and lower and thinks it’s due to lack of sleep over such a long period of time.

It doesn't sound like she's able to self settle so everytime she's waking between sleep cycles she's needing help to get back to sleep because this is the sleep association that she has. Absolutely keep bf if you would like to but don't feed her to sleep. Get her ready for bed with a lovely bedtime routine making sure that she's tired and ready for sleep. Then try to help her to sleep on her own without you in the room. It's a learnt skill but a very important one.

Do you mind cosleeping? If you don’t mind it m, maybe try it again. It sounds like she just needs you at nighttime at the moment

18 month sleep regression was a complete bastard for us. I’d wait a few weeks and then see how she’s doing, just in case it’s that.

Tbh though I think the real issue here is that she’s never learned to fall asleep by herself (as in: feed, cuddle, kiss goodnight and off you go out of her room). Could you work on moving to that at bedtime? Also might be worth trying a comforter - mine were’t interested in them as babies but around 15-18 months both fell in love with a specific toy and that helped so much.