Sleep advice needed HELP!!

[mummyofgirls2]

My toddler for the past few weeks has been a nightmare at bedtime, crying as we put her in the cot, like a freaking out kind of cry. She has always slept and went to bed fine since she was 4 weeks old, for weeks I have left her to cry and fall asleep but it doesn’t seem to be breaking the pattern.
She has now started to get worse over the past few day spitting her dummy out and then screaming because she wants it. So I go in and give her it and as soon as I walk out she throws it out the cot. I am at a loss on what to do now, the only change in her life is her new baby sister (9 weeks old) she loves her I have tried showing her the baby going to bed at the same time etc.

Please help!!

How old of a toddler is she? Maybe time to put her in a big girl bed because she's a super duper big sister now and needs to show her new sibling how clever she is.

She is going to be 2 in March! I wasn’t sure if she would just run riot in her bedroom or not settle!

I think it’s quite common for big changes to cause regression in toddlers. She sees how much attention baby behaviour gets her sibling and is quite reasonably trying to get some extra attention for herself! I agree a big bed with lots of fuss to make it special is a good idea.
I’d also be inclined to give loads of reassurance and babying at bedtime for a short while to reassure her and allow her to relax with the knowledge she doesn’t need to fight for affection. (Not saying you haven’t been affectionate just: toddler logic!)

That does put her behaviour into a new light, how would you introduce the bed? Her cot does turn into a big girl bed, we were looking at introducing night light and a 1-1 with me or her dad reading a book, she’s never had a story then bed as she just to go to sleep with a bottle and wanted to go straight to her bed after bath time!

I changed my daughters cot Into a bed and just told her she was a big girl now so got a new bed, put on a new bed cover which she loved. I also used the change to change bedtime routine. We used to bath, pj's, bottle then into cot. We changed to bath, potty, pj's, choose a book and a teddy, snuggle in bed to read it and then sleep. We made sure to black the room out so she couldn't see what there was to play with 😂 and she never got out of bed. Could always give it a go, if it makes anything worse then it's not too hard to change it back into a cot

I think the new bedtime routine is a good idea. Also new covers - maybe let her help choose them? I let my DS have some time playing in his new ‘big’ room in advance of bedtime but it was a completely new room so may not be necessary. By the time my daughter was 12 weeks the regressive behaviours had largely disappeared. Good luck!

Thanks so much for your advice daddy is up now reading a story and giving some extra cuddles. Will definitely look into getting her to pick some covers and transitioning her into the bed! Fingers crossed

Well done and fingers crossed for you!