No sleep someone help please!!!

[Mummy2be2]

My wonderful 3 week ( 4weeks on Wednesday)old baby boy won't settle in his Moses basket, we have no problem getting him to sleep but as soon as we put him down he starts stirring we get about half till he starts to wake up me and my partner have to take shifts so we at least get a nap but because I'm breastfeeding as well it's only me feeding him

We've tried swaddling him putting s blanket under the mattress to lift his head a little but nothing works I'm running out of ideas I'm constantly tired and me and my partner are starting to snap at each other through lack of sleep anyone got any advice please!!!!!

Hiya I'm so sorry it's SO hard at first! My baby was exactly the same she's now 18 months old. I found sleeping bags were a saviour. My DD didn't like blankets and I have read about babies finding the bed cold can be a problem, sleeping bags mean that they can get all snuggly and cosy, won't kick the covers off to wake up AND the bed won't be cold for them as they are already in it! I used to change her nappy, whack her in a sleeping bag, boob her to sleep and transfer her in to the Moses basket and kept that pattern up every time so she knew the routine and it really helped! Good luck! Xx

Are the sleep bags safe to use at 4 weeks old?
I have got some I'm just a bit worried about putting him in it so young? Xx

As long as if can’t come up over his head you’re ok (so depends a bit how big his neck is vs the neck hole! You can get newborn ones)

Thank you I'll give it a go tonight 🙃

Good luck! Let us know how you get on. They should have the weights on for the newborn sleeping bags that your baby can use them from. We used them from about 3 weeks but my DD was quite a big baby! Xx

I had this problem until we put DD into a sleepyhead to sleep. We'd been recommended to buy one by so many people who had been through exactly the same but they were expensive and wanted to try her without at first but it was worth the cost in the end

Thank you everyone I'll let you know how we get on tonight!!! Xx

It is totally normal for newborns to only want to sleep on mum or dad. The big wide world is a big wide shock to them :) I BF my DS so can sympathise it can feel neverending at first with the constant feeding and lack of sleep. You may have to take it in shifts for a while but some things to help transition to Moses basket could be...

• warm it slightly before putting baby in
• don't put baby in until he is in a deep sleep (15-20 mins or so into a sleep cycle)
• put him down sooooo slowly. Like the slowest you can imagine. Then slower!
• gently rock the basket if you can
• hold a warm hand on his tummy after you've put him in, to help him feel comforted. You can slowly withdraw it after a minute or two.

Good luck, I promise it gets better.

Sleeping bags should have a minimum weight on them, it's worth checking. We used a Gro Snug and a Miracle Blanket for our DS until he went into sleeping bags.

Co-sleep. My DS had a tongue tie and when I was at the clinic for that, I told the midwife I was probably going to stop BF because of lack of sleep and DS's inability to settle unless being held and she told me to co-sleep and directed me to www.laleche.org.uk/safe-sleep-the-breastfed-baby/

It changed our lives. Please check it out and be open minded.

Definitely try a sleep bag. DS is exactly the same age as your LO and we used one last night. Definitely less disturbance when we put him down. Most have a minimum weight limit of 4kg which is when their heads should be big enough not to go through the hole but so check.

Our HV suggested a hot water bottle on the mattress too, in case bavybis just getting a bit cold when put down.

*baby is

Morning lovely mummies

He was too small for sleeping bag but my partner bought a new BabyLo Cozi Sleeper and we got an Ollie the owl sleeping aid teddy! It worked absolute wonders last night he got him self off to sleep with no problems and only woke up twice between 1-8! I was in shock kept a hand on his belly for a little to just so he knew I'm there!

I think the fact that he could see me as he was falling asleep helped a lot as well Thank you though everyone for your tips!

Would he sleep in pram or can you get a next me crib with side down so you can cuddle/pat without lifting him out and he may settle. How big is he? My baby woke herself up as she kept touching the sides of the crib and we changed to a travel cot.

Yeah we have one and he's a very long little man!! Think that's why he wouldn't settle cause he'd whack the sides and it'd make him jump!

But he was a lot happier last night!

Glad to hear it. I honestly think it gets easier every week.