Bedtime routine new baby

[Bobfossil2]

Hi all
My baby is 12 weeks old and I have just for the past week or so been doing some sort of very loose bed time routine rather than just having her sleep downstairs and transfer her up when we go.
We do bath at 7pm and story, sometimes a bottle then but not always needed because she doesn’t have a feeding routine in the day so her times are all different. I then put her in the pram in the same room as us and transfer her upstairs at about 11, where she sometimes has an extra feed and sometimes doesn’t. She gets up about 3 for another feed.

When I’ve talked about this with other people (especially my mum) they think I am ridiculous for keeping her with me in the evenings and tell me to put her to bed. How do you follow the six month sleeping advice if you’re trying to implement some sort of bedtime routine? I’d be interested to know what other people have done.

My other question is about daytime napping. Currently she naps whenever, I don’t keep track but I imagine it’s after about 60-90 mins of awake time. Sometimes she naps after milk and sometimes not. Other mums seem to have napping routines. Do I need to keep better track of this?

Thanks, from a new and confused mum

My DS dictated he wanted to go to bed at about four months. Up until then we'd bath and then he'd sleep downstairs with us. At four months he started screaming at 7/8pm until we took him upstairs and put him in his cot (it took a few days to figure it out!) anyway I felt fine doing this as had a movement monitor and was up and down checking on him every 5 minutes - but that's personal opinion. If he'd have been happy sleeping downstairs with us I'd have happily done that to.
As for routine DS still doesn't have one at 9 months 😂 he sleeps when he's tired in the pram, car, on me or cot (rarely). This works for us as we're always out and about but in comparison who's son will only nap in the cot at midday, every baby is so different.

My personal opinion is do what's right for you and your baby. Everyone will have a different view but I'd just do what makes you both happy 😀

I'd never be able to have a nap routine as we are constantly out the house I just aim for around 3 a day they are often in her pram whilst on the go (she's just over 3months)
I also still keep her down stairs with us until I go up.
We dim the lights from 8 into sleeping bag feed and into her bed/chair thing (it's odd it's basically a rocker chair that reclines down to flat) anyway she sleeps in that until we go up.
I did try and put her upstairs but she would wake after 30 mins and couldn't get her back to sleep for 2 hours sometimes.
So although I can't suggest anything at least you know your not the only one.
she sleeps from 7 until 1 then 8am an I'm able to get things done in the evening without being up and down the stairs all night.

Ok good so not everyone has a nap routine!
Thanks both

I don't have a nap routine, just try and ensure 3 a day (almost 6 month old) I've always just let her sleep when she wants.
We've had a night time routine since 5 weeks, we were aiming to keep her down with us until 6 months but as a previous poster said, she decided it for us and after a week and a half of screaming from 5pm onwards it was amazing that just taking her up was the answer! She just prefers to be left alone to sleep and still does to this day. Obviously all safety measures taken for this, constant checking, monitor etc.

If she was happy downstairs until 6 months though, we would absolutely have done that so just do whatever you need to do. All babies are different

Sounds ideal - I would love to do this but DS just can't settle so we now go to bed at silly o'clock.
I miss my evenings terribly.