Standing up in his cot

[SiTay]

Hi MNers,

My 22 month old has decided he doesn't want to sleep anymore, he would rather stand up against the bars (tonight it's been 15 minutes in silence so far) and he's not lying down at all or crying.

Last night we had this for an hour and half but he was hysterically crying. We did controlled crying (going in every 5 minutes and lying him down) we go to about 30-40 minutes and DH and I felt awful so ended up picking him up and distracted him by looking out the window and reading a calm book put him back down but he carried on. I ended up stroking his face and he was asleep in about 2 minutes.

He's self settled since about 4 months old, no sleep associations (dummy/tapping etc) he'd normally sleep 7:30pm-6:30am (apart from being poorly or teething)

We come back 3 days ago from 4 days of staying in a hotel in the same room and he'd self settled and slept through

Can anyone offer advise or had the same situation?

I'll add that he does had a bunny and blanket in bed with him and sleeps in a grow bag.

It's now been 25 minutes and he's crying

What happened? Did he settle? My 15 month ds has been doing something similar, he stood for over an hour in the middle of the night last night with me nipping in and out telling him it was still sleep time. He is a climber so I'm dreading the day he works out how to climb over the side, I watch him like a hawk on the monitor, so stressful.

@BentleyBelly I've ended up going in and stroking his face. I think it's because we've stayed in a hotel with him for 4 nights and now he can't get used to us being on his own. He woke up at 4:30am this morning and that was his for the day.
Some babies are ready for beds sooner than others have you considered a bed?xx

@SiTay Same...we were up at 4.40! He currently shares a room with his older sister that is not completely baby proof so taking the sides off his cot would be a right pain, I'm hoping I'm over thinking things! We are going through a crazy separation anxiety phase at the mo so I think that's the cause of the standing and shouting for us. Hope you've had a better bedtime tonight. Ds has been in his cot for 10 mins now, super tired and ready for bed. I've been back in once to lie him down and he is now sat swaying holding onto the bars...I think he has fallen asleep sat up!....and as i type this he is down, phew.

@BentleyBelly firstly, I hope your DS is settled now and stayed asleep for you.
I think sep anxiety is the same for us too. DS has been in his cot for 1hr 10 so far and we've been in multiple times (DH & 1 taking it in turns) as soon as a go to move he'll start crying and stand back up. He is currently, stood up silently, I believe he's falling asleep stood up. When we go in his eyes are half closed...
Sooo I've been in to him, he got back up we've left him and I think he'd given up and gone to sleep. Hopefully that will be him until 7am
Update me tomorrow with how your night goes xx

Ah good, fingers crossed for both of us. I've a stinking cold so could really do with a full nights sleep. Back to school tomorrow for dd so back to routine for all of us, that should help.

And the screaming has started 😞

@BentleyBelly how was your night?
DS cried for 1h 20 at bed time and woke up at 1:20am and cried for 1 hour 20 but then slept until 7:25am
We followed this last night - www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/features/baby-whisperer-crying-out-for-sleep-2303593.html?amp

Sorry to hear you had a rough night too. We gave up and dh took him downstairs at 4 and slept on the sofa with him. We don't have a spare room and if he comes into bed with us he just wants a boob in his mouth the whole night. Feeling at a bit of a loss this morning as usual tactics are failing. Will have a read of your article, thanks.

@BentleyBelly how have you got on tonight? DS settled within 40 minutes and then has been awake since 1am, just standing there silently and lies down every time we go on. DH & I are having an hour on each, my eyes are half shut typing this (oops) how old is your DS?

Morning @SiTay that sounds like a hard night. Are you working today? I hope you got some rest.

We randomly had a good one, he woke briefly at around 11pm, stood up and shouted for 5 minutes whilst I held my breath but then settled himself back to sleep. He was then up at 5.20am but came into bed with us and after a feed slept until 7. I was almost late for work as I've stopped setting an alarm! I don't know about you but my anxiety is through the roof and I find myself fixating on the video monitor. Whenever it lights up my blood pressure flies up! My dd never did this...she just lay there, its karma I tell you...I was such a smug cow about her brilliant sleeping!! Ds is just shy of 15 months and a proper little monkey!

Just remembered i gave the heating a real blast in their room before bed last night incase it was the cold waking him....it was flippin tropical in there at bedtime, dd complained bitterly and then slept on top of the covers whilst ds was in a long sleeved vest, pjs, socks and 2.5tog bag....he really feels the cold, they are not compatible roommates.

Does DS sleep in your room?

Yeah I work, full time so these sleepless nights are not ideal, but it sounds like you're in the same boat.
I called the HV today to ask for advice. She said to not tap when we go in as he's expecting that. She said it sounds like separation anxiety and he is used to having us in the room when we were away. So we're just going in when he's crying every so often to lie in down but we don't speak to him or anything. She also mentioned night terrors, if he wakes at a similar time every night do a wake to sleep about 45 minutes before the normal wake up time.

We put him down an hour ago and he's still having a little whinge now but need to be persistent with it otherwise I feel like I'm just going around in circles and making DS, DH & I stressed and tired.

Oh I was the same as you up until 2 weeks ago, I used to say DS self settles sleeps through 7:30 - 6:30 NO DRAMAS!! He's like SURPRISE it's 1am and I'd rather stand up in my cot and demand you!! Haha.

As I type now he's asleep. No tapping or anything xx

No, he shares with his older sister who sleeps through all his wailing, thank goodness. We are trying to be consistent too....but it's so hard when nothing you have done before works! I only work part time...I don't function well with disturbed sleep...you must be exhausted xx