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9 month old won’t go to sleep at bedtime

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riotlady · 02/01/2019 21:35

My daughter used to be a great sleeper, I would put her down in her cot and she’d go straight to sleep, have a dream feed at 11 and sleep through til about 7.

For the past few weeks it’s all gone to shit. She will only fall asleep in my or my partner’s arms and wakes up and starts screaming the second we try and put her down. We repeat this over and over again between about 7pm and midnight, at which point she’ll normally sleep for a few hours then wake up and need to be cuddled to sleep again.

Tonight we tried to start the “gradual retreat” method and tried to soothe her to sleep via patting, shushing, stroking etc in her cot while we sat next to her. Mostly she pulled herself up to standing and cried. After 3 hours of crying she got so worked up she was hyperventilating and could hardly breathe so we picked her up. Now we’re back to square one. What do I do??? I start my masters in q couple of weeks and will need evenings to study, I can’t spend the whole night in her room cuddling her in the dark. I’m so emotionally drained.

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smokealarm · 02/01/2019 22:12

Have you read up on the 8-10 month sleep regression?

It was brutal with my DD around the 9 month mark but after a few weeks it all went back to normal.

riotlady · 03/01/2019 03:31

Yes, everything seems to either say “play peekaboo so she gets over her seperation anxiety” Hmm or not to get in habits you don’t want to continue, like cuddling her to sleep. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do.

Have been up with her the past 1.5 hours and she just wakes up and howls every time I try and put her down

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riotlady · 05/01/2019 21:14

Been trying for nearly 2 hours to get her down tonight, no luck. I want my dinner!

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