Feeling a bit sorry for myself

[SnuggyBuggy]

I know there isn't anything I can do, just whinging tonight. 7 month old DD simply will not sleep alone and hasn't since 4 month regression. I was coping by just keeping her on my lap in the evenings but I'm increasingly finding she is disturbed by light and noise.

I just feel pissed off. I don't want to be stuck on my own in the dark all fucking evening without even a screen to read but she is now wide awake, doesn't want to feed, doesn't want to sleep and yet still screams when I put her down.

DH isn't making me feel any better by googling, reading the odd sentence and coming up with crappy half baked ideas.

Ugh just fed up and it's not even 10

Hey snuggy, my 5 month old is having some sleeping problems as well. It's mega tough, I absolutely feel your pain.

Can you and your DH not take turn about so you each get a bit of time to yourself?

Do you co-sleep?

Can you lie down in bed with her til she falls asleep then sneak away downstairs for a few hours? Use bed rails and a baby monitor to keep her safe in bed without you. It's rubbish when you don't get any time to yourself

DH is playing with her for a bit to give me a break. We are cosleeping, to be fair the nights aren't bad, it's the evenings I miss.

I have managed to feed her lying down and sneak away, I tend to only get 30 mins at best but maybe it's a start.

Thats really rough. I suppose the advice would be to try and get her to settle herself but I know myself you do anything for an end say life and when you’re exhausted, you just don’t have the willpower.

She just doesn't seem to have any ability to self-settle, she immediately wakes and screams until picked up. I don't feel ready to let her cry it out yet, I reckon she'd just scream herself purple anyway.

I was really hoping to try a gentle method but none of the babies in the gentle methods seem to resemble her . She doesn't have a drowsy but awake state when put down and no amount of patting or soothing words stops her crying.

I’m with you, I don’t let my DS cry it out either, it’s just not for me.

Does she have a dummy or a soft toy? My DS has a soft rabbit that he loves, I take it off him once he’s asleep butit helps to send him over.

He settles on his own as well, sleep from about 8-1 or 2 and is then just wide awake for normally a few hours. It’s hard work but different to the issues you’re having.

Have you tried rolling up a towel and putting it under the bottom sheet? I’ve never done it but heard that this can help them to feel that they are being cuddled.

She has some toys that I might try and get her to bond with but I've never had much luck with dummies.

DH actually suggested blindfolding her

My DS loves his dummy although I hate it and sometimes it’s more trouble than it’s worht when it falls out and wakes him up. He loves a soft blanket too, maybe try and get her used to something snuggly when you cuddle her and she might associate it with sleep and comfort over time.

That might work? One of those beauty mask things? Might be able to take it off once she’s sound asleep? When it comes to sleep deprivation, anything’s worth a go 😂

I think self settling is mostly developmental. Have you tried a form of white noise to help drown out any background sounds that might be disturbing her?

I might try feeding to sleep with white noise then sneaking out, even if I only get a little time