Co-sleeping breaking the habit

[babyblue32]

Ok so, my LO hasn't always slept with me. Only now and then when he just wouldn't settle. Well it getting more now. He won't sleep anywhere apart from his pushchair or my bed. And he'll fight his sleep until he's held.

So, I've been trying for 6 weeks. To get him to do a full night in his cot.
So fair I've managed 7 days, not one after the other and he doesn't always stay there until morning.
He'll fight to stay awake, kicking, rubbing his eyes, scratching the side of his cot, thrashing about. He can't seem to self soothe or let me soothe unless held 😩

He's still waking for 3/4 feeds a night but isn't taking the lot. He's five months old. (Teething) But had this problem before anyway.

I'm just feeling at my wits end. It's only me. I have no support during the night. So the sleep deprivation is really starting to get to me, I'm started to get frustrated with LO.

I can put him next to me in bed and he'll sleep, but he won't do that in his bedside cot. Where he can see and reach me.

Just looked for advice or suggestions? I feel like he'll be in bed with me forever ( I know I know this is something that comes with co-sleeping but it's never been a permanent thing he used to sleep in his bedside crib)

Are you not getting a good sleep with him in bed with you or is it only when you try to put him in cot your sleep is disturbed?

Interesting! I also have a dc 5 months old and it's the exact same story except he is ok napping in his own bed, never more then 30 mins though. For night wakings he used to get back in the crib quite happily but now fusses if I try to transfer him and in the end wakes himself up. Very happy to sleep next to me in my bed all night long. So no useful advice, but solidarity, and following to see if this is a thing for babies this age and if anyone has any good tips!

10mo, I have the same issue. Won’t lie in his cot, just stands up and cries. No amount of shushing or patting helps. If I bring him in bed with me he goes straight to sleep. I’m sick of sleeping in his room on a camp bed and I want to go back in my own bed with DH!

It's not that I'm not sleeping when he's in bed with me... because I am. It's just I don't want him in this routine. When my friends have him or my family have him overnight he'll sleep in his cot.
He's a little bugger for me ( love him though ).

I know self soothing is taught, and they have to learn. But it doesn't seem to work for me. He's very much a baby that will kick off until in my bed.

And tonight he's been on one. I've been trying since 10pm to settle him. He only did two hours in his bedside and he's in with me already. 🙄

I was given the advice to maybe warn him bedside mattress up slightly or put my T-shirt under the sheet; so that'll be one to try tomorrow night.

I'd ignore all self soothing advice...but then dd still sleeps with me at 7. She won't want to in a year or two so I'm making the most of it! They dont stay so small for long.
I've not got a partner though so the super king is plenty big enough!

At 5 months old I really don't think you're risking this becoming a long term habit! He's still very young.

I also don't agree with self soothing. I've looked after many babies as well as my own dd and our instincts are to comfort them, especially when they're very young. our instincts exist for a reason.

It won't do him any harm and if you're both getting a good nights sleep out of it that's the main thing.

I co-slept with dd till around the same age, she naturally herself started to resist that and became happier sleeping in her cot, in our room at first then in her own room. But even then if she was teething or poorly or just having an unsettled night she was back in bed with us/me if she wanted until she was early teens.

She'll still come in for a chat or a cuddle now and she's almost 18! She won't sleep though mainly cos she's too bloody big and gangly and we both end up bruised

I've also co-slept with some of the babies I've looked after (relatives and very close friends, parents knew and absolutely fine with it they knew I'd do it safely and the babies concerned knew me well, didn't sleep well in cots etc and were co-sleepers at home).

Almost all now in their teens and perfectly happy healthy kids.

No baby ever read a book or a blog! Go with what feels natural and you won't go far wrong.

I bought the little ones sleep programme (it's about £30) and that really helped with teaching DD to self settle. She was having big naps in the day but lots of night wakes and feeding to sleep. DD is now 4 months and sleeps in her own cot all night aside from a 10/11pm feed. Is your LO having enough feeds during the day and decent naps?

Mine slept in between us for ages, never bothered me at all. Seemed quite normal at the time. It doesn't last forever, make the most of it.