Cosleeping question

[Tillytrotter123]

My DD has finally outgrown her next2me cot at 9 months. As soon as she could sit up I realised it wasn’t safe and put her in her own room, I was exhausted from going into her room so many times so I put her in with me and woke to find she had climbed out of bed. I felt so guilty as she could have fallen but luckily she didn’t.

My question is, how can you safely cosleep? I was convinced I would have woken if she’d sat up as we often have naps together but obviously not! I really miss her in the night being so far away and would love her in with me but I feel it’s dangerous. I looked into bed rails but is that further to fall? Or should I just persevere with her in her own room and is it a backwards step putting her back in with me?

I’m just exhausted going into her room about 6 times a night and it will be worse when I’m back at work in 3 weeks! Any advice would be really appreciated.

Mine doesn't crawl or climb yet so I'm not there, but in your position I would put her cot in my bedroom.

I was thinking about that, right next to the bed. I went to a baby group a few days ago and all the other mums coslept, even with babies older. I just can’t understand how they don’t roll out.

I started co sleeping when DS was 7 months and grew out of his Moses basket, he’s 16 months now. I put the cot against the side of my bed and put a big towel in the gap, if he wants to get out of bed he has to climb over me.
I do close all the other doors upstairs and make sure the stair gate is closed, but he just wakes me up when he wakes up.

I wouldn’t be able to fit the big cot in my bedroom with my double bed. I cosleep as DS won’t go in his cot. The two options were a rail on the side of my bed, or put my mattress on DS’s bedroom floor. So I did the latter.

fedupandlookingforchange - did you just take a side off the cot? I think I might do that. She does sleep a lot better next to me and I like the idea of her being close by. Yes I’ll make sure all the doors are closed just in case!

I began co-sleeping at 3 months of age and at 16 months of age we still co-sleep.

He’s fallen out of the bed twice but that was because I fell asleep whilst holding him and dropped him.

I have the bed pushed against the wall and he’s obviously on that side of the bed.

He sleeps in a sleeping bag so I always keep my hand on it so that if he starts to move during the night it will wake me up.

The only way he could fall off the bed is if he ends up at the very bottom of the bed so every night I put spare pillows and blankets on the floor so that even if he does topple out he will have a soft landing.

We moved DD onto a single mattress on the floor Montessori style when she was getting too wriggly in our bed at 13 months. Big sheepskin rug next to it so if she did fall out it's onto a soft surface. We also have foam wedges along the edges of the bed under the sheet which stops rolling out. We tried taking the side off the cot but she wasn't having it. Now I can just get in with her in her bed if she's having a bad night and I'm not up and down constantly.

We just use a bed rail.