Wonder if anyone has any advice in this.
I believe my little one is going through an extreme phase of separation anxiety and therefore she can but doesn’t want to fall alseep without me in her bedroom. She used to just be put down and sleep on her own but since she gas mastered object permanence, she started having separation anxiety attacks and that was it for me, she wont let me leave the room. And cries for ages if I don’t come back. She does eventually cries herself to sleep but all documents i read says it should be stopping by the 4th or 5th night or at least being quicker for her to cry herself to sleep. I absolutely hate this method and feel awful doing it but this is affecting my sanity now that she keeps watching me to see if i am still in the room and only sleeps without crying if i have my hand on her in the cot (therefore she knows i am around) but if for whatever reason she wakes up again in the night, she expects me to be there again. This is exhausting because sometimes it can take me hours to go back to bed. It didn’t used to be like this a while ago, i would just feed her a bottle, she would roll over and go to sleep easily and i’d be back in bed in 10 min, it used to happen twice a night, which made me think she could only be hungry, as she has also developed a picking habit for food as getting older. And it’s not about eating sweets and chocolate, its just choosing what she likes to eat and only eating that. So I never know if she is hungry, teething or just being spoiled! I started some “sleeping training” then she got really poorly with a cold and I didn’t have the heart to go through with it until the end... she has been quite poorly with a cough for a while and i had to stop the training or go easy on it, which i can only assume made things worse as now it takes me hours to put her down and again every time she is up in the night, sometimes 3 or 4 times a night, taking me more than an hour to be able to leave her room and back to mine.
I am desperate! Any advice is greatly appreciated! Thank you