My ds is 15 weeks old and I am really, really struggling with the lack of sleep.
He has never slept well. We had ONE night weeks ago when he did 1.30 till 6am and that is the longest stretch of sleep I've had in months as I wasn't sleeping well when heavily pregnant in the heat this summer. He is EBF and started off much smaller than average and is now a huge chunk. He is very gassy and pukes A LOT and yes, we've tried all the reflux meds/raising end of cost/dummy (he refuses) etc which have made not a jot of difference.
His daytime naps are not too bad, and he will sleep in the sling or car, but if at home he will only sleep on me and will wake up if put down. I've tried putting down when drowsy but it just does not work and ends with him screaming blue murder and taking ages and ages to calm down. Today I have done a lot of aimless driving and he has had a total of 4 hours nap time. I set a timer of 90minutes on my phone the moment he wakes up so I know When I need to get him asleep again to avoid him getting over tired. Obviously 'sleep when your baby sleeps' doesn't work if you are driving/walking either.
He likes to feed to sleep, so in the daytime I've been switching things up by feeding him when he wakes from a nap to try and break that association. I've started to be able to sometimes settle him by cuddling and patting his butt which I couldn't do before. Still can't put him down though..!
Night times are just a fucking disaster and it feels like we are still stuck cluster feeding in the evening like when he was a newborn. We start our bedtime routine at 7pm with bath, massage, into pjs/sleeping bag, book and feed but then he feeds and feeds and feeds and feeds. Generally he will eventually go to sleep anytime from 10pm to 12am. Any attempt to take him off the boob, he turns into a maniac, hitting, arching is back, screaming, proper tears, etc...
Then after eventually going to sleep, if I'm lucky he will sleep in his snuzpod for 45-60mins, then will wake, feed and refuse to go back down. I'm holding him now after not being able to settle him when he originally woke at 1ish. He's snoring away and even if I think he is deeply asleep, will wake within a few minutes of going back into his snuzpod. My lovely husband will sit with him in the evenings when he can so that I can get a couple of hours kip, but if I can hear him screaming I can't sleep anyway.
I tried cosleeping but I didn't feel safe for various reasons, and he would basically spend the whole night eating which left me with really sore nipples, lying in a pool of puked up milk. Ugh.
I've now developed sciatica from sitting propped up in bed all night with him, so I am not only tired but in pain too...
I understated that he is probably going through the 4 month regression so it's only going to get worse, but I am seriously struggling to function on such little sleep. Any ideas on what the fuck I can try next or anyone please give me any stories of their non-sleeping babies suddenly just sleeping..?