Sleepinh tablets toddler

[Lovelife12345]

This is going to sound awful however does anyone know if the doctors prescribe any form of sleeping tablets for 16 month old. I am at my wits end completely. He has never slept great! My eldest has slept through from 8 weeks. We have had two nights with my 16 month old. We have tried:

Replacing milk durn night with water.
Letting him cry
Later bedtime
No daytime naps
1 daytime naps
2 daytime naps
More food

It is 2am and he is currently running around the lounge! It was never a issue before we would leave him in his room until he fell back asleep but we have moved house and the kids have to share a room and he then wakes my 4 year old up! Plus our new neighbour doesn't even like the sound of kids playing durn the day let alone whether she can here them awake crying at night. Thing is he will be proper grumpy now tomorrow. I have also got a 4 hour round trip to visit my step kids, partner doesn't drive, and he has already said regardless we are going up. I can't get him to help durn the night because otherwise he gets too tired, skips work and starts having bad depressive states and wanting to commit suicide. Hence feeling like I have to do it on my own. I have been reading they can give kids melatonin anyone had any experience with this. I could be looking at losing my job at the moment as i am so severely sleep deprived and it's causing me to get more stressed with the kids durn the day.

A boy in my daughters (reception) class has just been prescribed melatonin but he’s 4 and that was after over 2 years of other methods being tried. His mum was advised by her GP and referred to a sleep clinic in the first instance. So to get the ball rolling you need to see your GP I think.

@ReggieKrayDoYouKnowMyName thank
You. I am booking an appointment but earliest I can book online is 21st! I might try ringing them tomorrow my worry is saying something that they might think means I can't cope and get social services involved when I'm just a mum who needs sleep :(

I know a little boy who has been prescribed melatonin since around 12m. Having said that it hasn't made a huge difference.

Please don't worry about them thinking you're not coping. Social services won't be interested!

While you wait for the appointment on the 21st I'd recommend contacting your health visitor. Some health visitor teams have a HV who specialises in sleep problems and may be able to help.

Thank you. He is currently running around the lounge laughing. I just have tried everything and every suggestion online and nothing has worked now so tired and doesn't help I have a 4 hour trip tomorrow. J just don't know what else to try and wanted to no if anyone's little ones had been prescribed anything. Tried that lush sleepy cream nothing :(

It's probably not what you want to hear, but my oldest went through a phase of waking for 2 hrs in the middle of the night. It did just stop. Can your partner share with your oldest, and you share with your youngest to try and maximise sleep all round? I used to doze on a mattress on the nursery floor from about 2am each night, with one hand through the cot bars. The only think that solved it was time

What is his night sleep usually like??

Your husband can't help but then still expects you to drive to see his kids? You are at risk of losing your job too? Sorry that's unreasonable and dangerous too.
At least can he get up early to give you a couple of hours?
My last child was horrendous at sleeping but sharing it got us through it.
Drs us a good start. Good luck

A cranial osteopath might be worth a try, or a night nanny for a short stint if you can afford it.

Just thinking about tomorrow (sorry no help on the long term issue), you have to get your partner up to take over while you sleep for a few hours.....travel a bit later if possible. You cannot drive that distance tired, you could kill yourselves and others. Not meaning to scare you, just use it to explain priorities to your partner. I don't think non-drivers always realise the responsibility.

None of mine slept through until at least 2 though. I had f/t job and so used to just let them in my bed (or get in with them..like you I had two sharing a room so I know it's tricky), and pat them until they drifted off again while I dozed. Against all the advice, I know, but anything to get through. Re. the doctor, could you log your DS's sleep and waking over a week or two and take the times along with you? Might show some patterns or at least keep the appointment focused if you are worried about getting upset because you are so tired. Good Luck

Also we had Classic FM (boring enough to fall asleep to, but' 'company' if they woke), on very low volume in their room through the night. Seemed to keep one of them in bed sometimes and is free, unlike the cranial osteopathy and night nanny options suggested above (not actually options in my world at all!).

Don't think he would keep still for an oestopath 😂 my firstborn we had one though for his colic so perhaps this is why he slept better. he use to sleep with us and then went into his own bed about 3 months old. Problem is he wouldn't lie still so would be up trashing the house. My partner has work until 12 and then we will make the drive tomcollect them from school. He doesn't understand how much pressure it is, he can't get the train as wouldn't make it on time. I get he wants to see his daughters but at what cost. Then I get some message of him saying work wants to send him home as he's not fit work because he's tired sonwhat tyoe Of man is he not being able to juggle work and home life. Just looking for sympathy when actually it's me who is the tired one. He has never actually slept great always got up a lot but normally goes back to sleep straight away. Xx

Why doesn't your partner drive ? I f he wants to visit his kids "no matter what" then tell him to get a driver's license and do it himself. He's a CF. And that whole " you can't ask me to help because then I'll be so tired / skip work / want to kill myself" tactic sounds like manipulation to me.

Just a little blast from the past - my DM used to put a teaspoon of brandy in my bottle - apparently I slept "like a baby" .

OP- what is your DH doing about his own mental health? Is he having treatment?

Thank you everyone, I went to the doctors today and had the useless one (last time we saw him he said our son had a really red ear drum but wouldn't need antibiotics) and a day later he had a perforated ear drum! He won't prescribe anything or refer us until we see HV. I rang HV hub and they are sending a questionnaire out to see if he needs to go to sleep clinic, however I then had my local HV said he will visit next week and we can put in place a plan that usually works in 6 weeks which apparently doesn't involve crying it out. So we shall see outcome. Today I have bought some Bach rescue remedy bed drops to try as they are herbal so worth a go... he settled quite quickly which is not like him.

Just feel such a failure I have never had to use the HV before. But for all our sanity we need to try and sort his sleep out.

With regards to partner I feels stuck as I do see in the past lack of sleep for him does send him down a deep and dark path. He was on antidepressants but didn't like the side effects, then was prescribed with a personality disorder and waiting on councilling. I do feel awful as we only see them once a fortnight; but today i didn't feel safe driving. I made it there ok, and ended up sleepinh in his mums bed for a few hours before coming back.

OP- They are there to be used and if hundreds of people weren’t using them the service wouldn’t exist