10 week old will not sleep at night HELP!!

[Tails5290]

My 10 week olds sleeping habits are leaving me exhausted.
So this is baby no.3 and my first 2 were angels compared to this baby.
His day time naps are ok and can even self soothe and send himself off to sleep in his rock n play in the day but night time comes and it's a whole new ballgame.
We have a strict bedtime routine. Bath, baby massage, feed in the dark and then sleep time about 7.30 and this has been in place since day 1. We will fall asleep on me and I will put him down, and within 20 mins he is wide awake and then I will rock/feed him to sleep and he will wake again, this will go on through the night. I've tried co sleeping or in his bed and it makes no difference he is still awake squirming. He has infant gaviscon as he has reflux but things have been a lot better since he has been on it and is a very happy content baby in the day and rarely sick after feeds anymore. I don't know what I am doing wrong, this is my 3rd child, I should know what I'm doing but instead I feel so clueless and helpless. Any advice would be so greatly received

I think people should be careful not to try to diagnose a medical issue when they have no real basis upon which to do so. It’s great to share experiences relating to reflux / allergies / tongue tie etc but when you’ve a small baby and things are difficult it can seem better to try to put a label on it and look for a problem that isn’t actually there. Far too many people nowadays are citing tongue tie and I would never agree that self proclaimed specialists are better placed to advise on this than true medical professionals. I won’t go into the full detail but with my 1st I had a horrendous experience on this front and ended up in.a right state about it all because of an independent tongue tie specialist who tried to get me to let her cut my sons tongue there and then in her bloody living room for a fee. There was no tongue tie.... Point is that young babies can be hard work and most of the time it’s just because they are and not because there’s anything wrong with them.

Ok so last night I put him down about 9.30 (he was in a deep sleep after falling asleep on me 30 mins before) and I waited up until 11 and then dream fed him, he slept then until 2am, was fussy until about 5 then back to sleep for another 2 hours until my alarm went back off at 7.
This was a good night and I'm feeling refreshed this morning. I've decided I'm going to just follow his lead, but not attempt to put him down until at least 8.30/9.

Thank you all for your replies, it's been so lovely to have people's insights and just someone to talk to.

My baby is just being a baby and i need to accept this is the way he is, in a few years time I'll have my bed and sleep back and I'll look back at this through rose tinted glasses I'm sure xxx

I think people should be careful not to try to diagnose a medical issue when they have no real basis upon which to do so

We aren’t. We are saying to talk to a specialist....

@Tails I am really pleased you had a better night! Fingers crossed things are a bit smoother from now! X

I think people should be careful not to try to diagnose a medical issue when they have no real basis upon which to do so. I thought we were giving the OP information and if she felt that it could be an issue, after reading the articles, then to seek specialist help.

I’d never heard of Tongue Tie until I joined MN. I’d had literally dozens of HCPs tell me my DS didn’t have it, only he did.

Have you tried swaddling him? I also agree that the bedtime may be too early. 6 week old DD is with us until we head to bed around 10-10.30 and then fed, winded, changed and swaddled and asleep by 11ish. She then sleeps til around 2.30/3!

I tried later bedtime last night but only managed to get him to stay awake until 9 then he was up at 12, 1,2 and 4. I've tried swaddling and he hates it unfortunately.
I think I'm just going to have to resort to day time napping while the older children are at school and accept that my house is not going to be tidy until he's sleeping better.