Anyone ever moved baby to cot after co-sleeping

[Lunatime18]

I was wondering if anyone has managed to move from co-sleeping to baby sleeping in cot. Recently my DD wakes up at night and doesn't go back to sleep in her cot. Co-sleeping was just a way to survive sleepless nights but it's very uncomfortable. She never really naps in her cot. I've tried to hold her to sleep and then move her but she wakes up straight away Or within 30 mins or so. She usually naps for a nearly 2 hours if she sleeps in my bed if I lay next to her at the start. Alot of people say she is used to my smell and now it might be to late to move her but tbh she had colic and never really settled to sleep well. She is nearly 8 months now and in Jan I'll be going back to work. She doesn't nap at my parents house more than 30 mins unless I'm there to hold her. Im just worried to return to work now.

Hi luna I started a similar thread on this a few days ago and got a couple of helpful responses, you should be able to see it alongside the other threads in the sleep section.

I've gone from cosleeping to cot twice this year! First time at about 6 months but I ended up taking her back into my bed during the 8-10 month sleep regression when she just would not settle at all.

Then at 11 months I had to get her back into the cot again because cosleeping was not working for either of us! I have a cut off at 5am - if she wakes from then I take her to my bed because otherwise she'll just wake for the day.

At 6 months I rocked her to sleep at the beginning of the night and put her in the cot - when she woke I'd do the same again and again. Although I had to put her back in the cot loads and loads at first, after a few nights it dramatically reduced. This time, she is too heavy to rock, so I put her into the cot drowsy and wait for her to fall asleep herself. If she gets upset I pick her up and repeat the process. (This is basically the pick up put down method).

Both times I had to sort of psychologically gear myself up for it, because I had to put her in the cot many, many many times (!) and sleep is initially worse. For example this time, first night she woke after a couple hrs, got her back in to cot but she woke after 10 mins - did the same 5 times!! But I'd say by the end of the first week it's dramatically better. Now she is only waking twice all night which is soooo much better than 7+ wakings when cosleeping.

So I'd recommend just trying putting her back in again and again, even after 30 mins, try and persevere and it might get better more quickly than you think. Just be prepared for say, 3 nights very very poor sleep!!

runnerbean that sounds similar to what my DD is like when I attempt this! I usually give up after an hour but trying to summon the energy to commit to it. Keep telling myself that when she recovers from her cold I'll do it...then she catches another one..

Yep we went from co sleeping to cot. DS woke every 90 minutes for first 6 months, then every 3 hours until 18 months and wouldn’t resettle in his cot so ended up coming in with us.

At 18 months he suddenly gained the ability to sleep longer and to be settled whilst staying in his cot. We then stayed firm and he hasn’t been back in with us since. Now at 25 months he still wakes once a night but just needs us to check in with him quickly and he goes back to sleep.

Aw yeah that is really tough when they are ill, i had to wait til mine was better before going for it too.

But when she's better, you can do it! Maybe try and visualise how amaaaazing it will feel to get more sleep! It's worth the effort, it really is I promise :-) good luck x

Thank you both.

@littlestrawby could you please add the link to make it easier to find. I've tried looking for a thread and couldn't find.

@runnerbean39 thank you I thinking of doing that but maybe using something to sooth her like a teddy or something.

What type of cot do you have ? Can you attach the cot to the bed and just take away the side?
Or have you tried a sleepy head ?

sorry luna I should have told you the title - see below www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sleep/3442995-how-to-stop-cosleeping

@runnerbean39 thank you for your encouraging message!! I have just read it out to my husband and it has given us a glimmer of hope I'll give her a few more nights of cold recovery then I'll go for it!

@sauvignonblancplz tbh I dont know if we can take the side off but it's big so we can't fit it next to our bed.

We coslept from 6 to 20 months. At 20 months she went into her own big girl bed.

@Lunatime18

It might have been an easier transition, maybe the sleepy head in the cot will give your wee one the same coziness of being in beside you.
Our son hated the space in the cot and settled instantly with the sleepy head.
Pricey though

@Jeffacake I'm glad it's worked out for you at the end. Im more worried for her daytime naps.

@sauvignonblancplz we initially bought something similar to the sleepy head when she was a newborn but she wasn't a bog fan. Who knew there was so much to think about?