How to stop cosleeping??

[littlestrawby]

My DD is one year old this weekend and is still an awful awful sleeper. She starts the night in her own cot and for the last few months (6 months thinking about it!!) purely out of survival she's ended up in my bed pretty much first wake up after I've gone to bed. She's now used to sleeping with me and understandably does not appreciate it when I try to put her back in her own bed after a wake up!

Anyone got any tips for how to transition her back into her own cot? Ive just spent an hour getting her back off, putting her in her cot only for her to wake a few mins later. So as usual have given up and brought her in with me so we can both try to get some sleep. Is it just a matter of persevering and being consistent? Would me sleeping in her room help?

I'd really like to start her second year of life with her in her cot, and my DH in our own bed for the first time since she was born!!

and that's the million dollar question. in the same boat dc3 here who is 9 months. I've been worse/more lax with each baby🙈
I'd like some proper sleep soon

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/sarahockwell-smith.com/2016/04/12/how-to-stop-cosleeping-and-bedsharing/amp/

Haven’t actually done it yet, but this is what I plan to do. Hope it works one day! Can’t even get my baby in the cot to start the night anymore!

We successfully got DD out of our bed at 13 months (most of the time anyway she was in with me from 3am today). She never had a cot, and I just bought a full sized single mattress and put it on the floor in her room Montessori style. This meant I could comfortably lie in bed and feed her to sleep and roll away unnoticed, we had a foam thing under the sheet to stop her rolling out and a thick sheepskin rug next to it in case she did somehow manage to launch herself over the side but it wasn't a big drop anyway.

I slept in with her the first few nights, then started sleeping in my own bed again and just getting in with her when she woke. I'd do bedtime stories and cuddles in bed with low lighting before feeding to sleep. She could get up and out of bed if she wanted to, but I had a baby gate on the door and she rarely bothered getting up after raging at the gate the first night, just shouted for me instead.

@silk that sounds good! Pretty much what the link above describes, glad to hear that it works :)

If you don’t mind me asking but what made you move your baby out? Did it improve their sleep? Or was their sleep already better? X

oh i totally forgot I started this thread while I was half asleep with DD!! I actually read the gentle sleep approach that night stinky but it just seemed a bit toooooo gentle and DD already knows and sleeps in her room a lot of the time (until I am asleep basically). But it does seem like a lovely slow approach to take for a baby that is new to her room.

silk that sounds like a good idea and like stinky said its a succinct version of the link. I am a bit miffed that our cotbed is bit of a waste but maybe we will get her into that later!

Hiya I've just written a very lengthy reply on a similar thread but wanted to say yes - persevere and be consistent and I would have thought it would get better.

My 11 month old has gone from cosleeping 7+ wake ups to cot sleeping and 2 wake ups. It took about a week to get to that point.

I was stuck in a similar vicious cycle of cosleeping after her first wake because I was so tired. I geared myself up for some even more awful sleep and then just started putting her back down in the cot after every wake. First few nights were awful, multiple wakings and hardly any sleep but much much better by the 4th night.

I also wait for her to fall asleep by herself at the beginning of the night - if she gets upset I comfort her and put her back in. Took a whole hour the first night, now 5 mins. This has also helped her overall sleep I think. I don't know if it would work with every baby but I'd definitely recommend giving it a try.

Hey runnerbean I've just seen and replied to your other post as well :) yes it sounds like we have a very similar baby! My only difficulty with leaving her to get herself to sleep is that she will just stand up and refuse to lie down...ever!! but I just need to suck it up and get on with it i think

thanks for your input :)

Oh I'm so sorry I just saw you had written on the other thread! Apologies.
We also have an standing up bit (SO annoying!!) - I used a combination of putting her down, going out the room or sitting reading my kindle. For whatever reason she eventually got the msg and doesn't really do it anymore. Hope it gets better for you! X

oh gosh runner dont apologise!! Thanks so much for your support. It really IS annoying, I don't think I've ever seen her lie down herself of her own accord...I am questioning whether she knows how to lie down (despite being able to run around since 9mo)?!! ha!!