How do I get my 1 year old to sleep in his own bed?!

[bluesky45]

Ds started off a brilliant sleeper, has been OK since 4 months. Generally since 1year, we have been up once a night. He's now 14months.
Just over a week ago, we went away. We were all sharing a bedroom which we haven't done since 5 and a half months. Ds also had an awful cold and was/is teething. He slept terribly for the 5 nights we were away but we put it down to new surroundings, not being well, us disturbing him etc etc. We both also caught his cold so we're running low on energy to get him to sleep in his own bed. He ended up in with us at some point every night.
We thought things would improve when we got home and got back into his routine and own surroundings. If anything they have got worse. 2 nights out of the past 5, he has spent the whole night in our bed and dp has slept on the sofa (we only have room for a double so there isn't lots of space).
We are now at the stage where we are exhausted from lack of sleep and catching his cold and we just want him to sleep in his own bed again. We are failing miserably at this. Any tips on how to do it? Should also add I'm 5months pregnant with baby 2 so struggling with picking him up every 5secs or leaning over his cot and laying him back down constantly. I fear we have 'made a rod for our own backs!'

This will start the age old debate but for me controlled crying fixed a very similar issue at the same age

Thank you. I have considered it but struggling to come to terms with it at the moment. He really really screams and sobs even if I just go to the loo when he wants us during the night. He's not like that at all during the day. We also live in a terraced house and I worry about waking the neighbours!

I think gradual retreat will help here

I really feel your pain here, my son is 1 and will not sleep in his cot unless I get him to sleep in his pram first, he wakes up several times in the night and can take him anywhere from 20 mins - 4 hours to get him to sleep! I’ve got a sleep support health visitor coming over this afternoon to give me some advice so maybe you could ask your health visitor and see what works best for you?? Xx

Another vote for controlled crying here...tried the softer approaches with no joy but cc got ds sleeping through again after 2 nights. Warned the neighbours and they were fully supportive as they were also being woken up multiple times a night by him. Had to do it three times now....at 7 months to teach him to self settle at bedtime (was magic after hours of rocking, feeding etc), 9 months to night wean (he slept through after 2 nights) and then again at 13 months after illness and a horrific sleep regression where I tried being soft again and made it worse. It is horrible...but its brief and it works if you are consistent!

Thank you for the replies. I think we will look into gradual retreat and try that first, see where it gets us and consider cc if it doesnt work.