DH has been dealing with the 4yo during the night for the last 6 months since having a baby. He's gone away for a few nights and I am left with both children and the aftermath.
He has been sleeping in bed with her when she wakes for the entirety of the night, rather than settling her then getting back into his own bed again. So she is expecting the same of me whilst I'm up, feeding the baby throughout the night! I put her in to my bed but she won't sleep at all and keeps me awake fidgeting. She has also been waking at 5.30am most days even though she has a groclock set for 6.45 and DH has been allowing her to play with her toys provided he can snooze away in her bed.
Overall, she was a fantastic sleeper before leaving it to DH. If ever she had a blip I would console her until she nodded off again and then leave her room... no tears... it always did the trick. Now shes getting up every hour until DH caves and sleeps in her bed. Then she barely sleeps and wakes playing with her toys far too early anyway! She's over-tired and cranky and sometimes wailing herself to sleep.
I'm really frustrated that I am now having to rectify these habits because DH hasn't dealt with the issues and now Im left with 2 children and having zero sleep.
I have been awake going between the 2 of them since 1am.
Has anyone any advice on now dealing with this? How to put this right again?