How do you do PUPD?

[Northernbeachbum]

Nearly 6m old DS has suddenly started waking hourly and has lost his self settling overnight ability. He could never get himself to sleep initially but was capable of getting himself back to sleep if he woke usually. So I'm thinking PUPD for his initial sleep will help him relearn to resettle. I get the initial principle BUT what if they never calm down as they're tired and need rocking? How long could it take? Should i wait for nights where DP could help? I really need this to work

No idea but I'd love to know so will give you a little friendly bump ✊🏻

Thank you!

You calm them in your arms whilst they are crying and the second they start to settle you place them down. You are not supposed to rock and we found it actually distressed DS more than just comforting in his cot!

I tried last night and then after a few pick ups he just would not calm at all for about 30 mins and as soon as i went to put him in again he started up again,id only moved towards lowering him, what are you supposed to do then?

Just keep going. First time I was doing it for 3 hrs. It is hard going.

@Nakedmum after your first night of doing it for 3 hours how long did it take to settle into going to sleep easily when put down?

Second night was about 40mins. 3rd about 20. Then it was hit a miss for a few weeks but much better.
My DS was 8months at the time.

I don't think PUPD works for all babies. I tried it consistently for almost a week with my first born at 7ish months. It just made her very distressed and I think she only "settled" through absolute exhaustion after much red faced screaming. I gave up reverted to buggy naps or letting her sleep in the sling or BF laying down with her. It made us happier all round. When I remember PUPD now years later I still feel a wave of guilt. Sorry, probably not what you wanted to hear at all.

@nakedmum33and3rd how were you getting your LO to sleep prior to PUPD? Not sure if from rocking to that is to big a jump. I fully admire your persistence at 3hrs!! I might wait for nights where DP can assist. Also did you do it for all naps too initially pr crack nights first?

@dubbyoo if its not for him i wont worry and ill try again when hes older. Im starting to get horrific back problems though so have to get something in place

I did it for everything. Prior to that we were rocking, walking around etc.
DS would not sleep for longer than 30 minutes so was used to no sleep. I was so at my wits end and about to go back to work so had to persevere. After the 2nd night we didn't really need to pick him up much.

Thank you for giving me hope

Thanks - I'm on my own at the mo and struggling with the willpower for it. Decided to start with naps but finally got him to sleep and next door started drilling and woke him up and then he has screamed on me for 30 minutes. It's so hard.

Ive got to admit i gave up 2 hrs in for a nap today....will try again

I'm doing it with my 10 month old, just done first full day and bedtime is soooo much easier than naps because she's got that drive to sleep at night. Not sure if I should have let the naps go until bedtime is more easy. I'm going to give it a week and if it isn't working I'll give up!

I am the same as you though, back is hurting a lot so need to do something. She has also reached an age where she doesn't actually appear to like being rocked to sleep and she neither feeds to sleep anymore...so what am I meant to do?!!

Good luck, hope you get somewhere with it.

Sorry but what's PUPD?

What part were to struggling with @Northernbeachbum? I found that during the sitting but he would just cry and cry and not calm down for so long

He was calming when held but all i had to do was move towards putting him into his cot and he screamed at me. Not had a chance to practise since as all naps have been out and about.....probably doesnt help him get used to it at all