19 month old just standing all night! Won’t sleep!

[Nicoleb4]

Please help!
Recently my 19 month old had a bad cold and slept in our bed for 1 week. She was always a great sleeper and went to sleep by herself, now she will not sleep in her cot.
When we first put her in she screams, then she literally just stands there for hours. Yesterday night she stood for 4 hours and we felt so bad we ended up bringing her into our bed.
She doesn’t cry, just stands there in silence.
I don’t know what to do!

@Nicoleb4 I asked just in case like a previous poster said it was some sort of reflux or indigestion hence her standing and the vomit you found previously after her 6 hour stint of standing.

She sounds like she loves a cuddle. I’d definitely think about introducing a soft cuddly toy into her sleep routine if you haven’t all ready done so.

With my terrible sleepers who desperately wanted me to just lie next to them, I would do what they wanted but then "just need to get a tissue/go to the toilet/send a message to granny on my phone" etc etc.

Saying "right that it's it I'm off now, night night" is stressful for them when they have got into an impossible pattern of needing you right there. Having to just nip off to blow your nose is simple enough for them to understand that it's necessary but that you'll be back quickly. Then you gradually eek out the times and get them more used to it. Pop your head round the door with a smiley "oops still sniffing, must get another tissue".

Not groundbreaking advice but saved my sanity and got things creeping in the right direction!

She’s just so stubborn. I have tried lying down next to her cot but then she wants to come out and lie with me and cuddle

That’s why I suggest just setting up a bed with her in her room.

Another thought - at that age I'd already moved mine up into a bed as the cot was needed for the next baby.

If you did this and went for a low single with a guard rail then you can lie next to her in her own bed when needed. Stair gate on bedroom doorway if escaping is a problem.

Thankyou everyone for your advice.
Think I will go back to the gentle approach.
Fingers crossed I will be telling you all soon that she is sleeping by herself!