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7/8/9 month old sleep problems - light at the end of the tunnel

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nononoyesno · 22/11/2018 11:27

I remember distinctly feeling so exhausted when my DD was this age and not sleeping and used to spend ages reading threads about other people's experiences / baby sleep problems, those posters saying their DCs sleep improved with time made me feel so much better - so I'm posting my own 'light at the end of the tunnel' thread.
DD was always a pretty bad sleeper, as other babies seemed to start doing 4-5 hour stretches of sleep around 5-6 months she was still doing 2 hours, 3 if we were lucky.(I know there's 'worse' sleepers out there). I remember 7/8/9 months being so hard. Wake-ups previously, although frequent had been fairly calm with a feed back to sleep. At this age she's be awake for ages, didn't always want feeding, sometime just wide awaking and rolling around her cot. Months of sleep deprivation were taking their toll on me. I spent so long reading about various sleep training methods. What frustrated me was that she could fall asleep fine by herself - and the books said this was the main thing to crack - but the middle of the night was a different story. She was awake and wanted me.
The thing that really helped - time! I think all kids just have different sleep patterns and needs and I'm in the camp of we can try and create good sleep habits but they'll generally sleep better when they're ready.
By 13ish months DD (and a few other crap sleeping babies I know) were all starting to sleep through (not every night I should add). I know that's not everyone's experience and some people struggle with toddlers who are still sleeping terribly, but for me any others I knew it did improve. So if you're struggling right now but don't want to implement any sort of training you're not comfortable with - hang on in there! It will get better. There's a sleep regression, developmental stuff, teething - so much going on at that age - and you're so so so tired but it's not forever. You're doing brilliantly - sleep deprivation is awful and it may not feel like it but you ARE coping.

DISCLAIMER: DD is now nearly 3 and is going through a bad patch with sleep - she hasn't slept through for a while (recent potty training, sibling on the way, who knows?!) but it is nothing compared to the pre-1 year old exhaustion. I'm not claiming she's a great sleeper or I have all the answers!

Sorry for rambling on - I hope this helps someone who's struggling as I was.

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scareycat3 · 22/11/2018 14:34

Aw thank you for this, i needed this today. My nearly 9 month son is being a real pickle with his sleep, doing the awake during the night thing and the refusing to nap unless I walk him around in his pram. I feel exhausted and on edge. I pretty much lone parent during the week as husband works silly hours and commutes. It's a lonely and relentless job and sometimes I cry at just how overwhelmed I feel. I hope I can look back like you and see that it has improved 🙂

nononoyesno · 22/11/2018 15:04

 - for you! You'll get through it and even though some days might seem like nothing but an exhausted struggle it will pass! I always used to worry about how I would cope in a week / a month / when back at work - but I did and it got so much better. I hope your nights starts to improve soon and you catch up with as much rest as you can at the weekends.

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nononoyesno · 22/11/2018 15:05

There were flowers wine cake tea there but I don't know where they went !

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MamaLovesMango · 22/11/2018 15:16

Thankyou. I needed this.

9mo DD has always been a terrible sleeper but recently she really is taking the biscuit to the point I’m not even sure she actually sleeps at all. Today she’s decided she doesn’t even need to sleep in the day and I am a broken woman. I’m constantly ill through the sleep deprivation. I’m not kidding when I say I’ve had 4 stomach bugs, an ear infection and now a stinking cold since she was born. DH does his bit and is as equally wrecked so having a ‘fair’ division of labour (bearing in mind she’s BF) isn’t really working unless one of us is feeling particularly kind and I don’t feel at all kind atvthe moment....

Like you, getting her down is no problem. It’s the constant wakings that’s the problem. It’s been such a shock to the system too as DD1 was the other way - a PITA to get to sleep but would sleep a 12 hour stretch if she could and really solid naps in the day. I go back to work soon. I think she might kill me before then......

Thankyou for giving me hope. It WILL end. It WILL. rinse and repeat

scareycat3 · 22/11/2018 15:33

@MamaLovesMango I hear you and I think I could have written your post too!

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