14 month old waking all night still

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I'm at my wit's end my daughter still wakes about 4-6 times a night and is up for the day between 5 and 6am. I haven't had an even semi-decent night's sleep in 14 months and I'm just so lost as to if it's going to get any better and how. She settles herself to sleep and naps well in the day. She's BF but only morning, evening and once in the night now (planning on cutting the night feed soon). She's such a great kid in every other way but these awful awful nights are wearing me down. We tried CC once a few months a go but she got so distressed I couldn't bear it. I don't want her to be sad but I don't know where to turn. Any words of wisdom? I'm a desperate woman!

My children are older so my advice might be out of date!
My ds didn't sleep for 7 months. I went to the hv a desperate woman!
She said as he was eating enough in the day, to cut out the night feeds as not needed. I was to get dh to deal with the night wakings and he would soon get the message. He did in 3 days!
However we also did cc so kit sure if this helped. He never cried for very long. He doesn't remember so not worried it's distressed him in later life!

But now they get themselves up, get breakfast, dressed and hardly need me!!! It will end!
However it's that feeling of tiredness! I had 2 days of jet lag recently and wondered how I survived feeling like that every day. Good luck xx

OP, did you sleep all night at fourteen months? I know I didn't.
Put her in bed with you and cuddle up, she'll sleep then.

Thanks SM40 that's not a bad idea to get her dad to do wake ups. He's a bit of a sleep through the apocalypse kinda guy so I'll have to get forceful but something has to give!
Rachel according to my Mum my brother an I were excellent sleepers and she can't understand why my daughter isn't the same. Although my Mum does tend to put rose tinted spectacles on the past so I may well have been horror child at night! I've tried bringing her in with us but she sleeps no better and I sleep even worse from worrying about her. Especially now she's so mobile she just won't stay on the bed. Would happily have her snuggling with us if it actually helped!

This sounds horrendous and can't be healthy for your dd either.

I'd look at basics first;

Room temperature- too hot/cold?
Noise - is she being disturbed? Any toys in her bed setting her off?
Bed - is Mattress soft and comfortable?
Covers & Pillow - I'd recommend Grobag sleeping bags - she can't kick covers off and will stay warm but not overheat.

Feed her well and bath her before bed, story and bottle/breast then tick her in and leave her.

If you're confident she's not ill then you should really see through the controlled crying. It can be sorted in 3/4 nights if done properly.

My dh was also a ignore all noise kind of person so imagine my glee when I told him it was the advice given. I would wake up, then
Give him a quick nudge before rolling back over!! Best 3 nights of my life!
Ds slept through 7-6 after this! Dd decided to sleep through from 8 weeks!!!! She didn't sleep in the day but took that after ds. You are nearly there if she self settles, just need her to do it in the night now.