DP falling asleep with baby on his chest

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Our baby is 5 weeks (almost) and I’ve come downstairs a couple of times to find my DP asleep on the sofa with DS asleep on his chest. They both look very peaceful and my DP always has his hand on DS. However I’m really scared something will happen to him. I keep telling my DP how I’m uncomfortable with this, but DS won’t settle unless he’s in the sling or on somebody’s chest. So I think DP settles him and then falls asleep himself as we’re both sleep deprived and he’s back at work.

Any ideas for a solution? I told him to put him in his Moses first but DP said it depends who falls asleep first!

OP please stop your DH from doing this.
A poor lady in my town lots her 3 month old doing this.
Baby feel asleep on her chest. She fell asleep. Baby didn't wake up (baby nestled it's face into the soft sofa and it suffocated)

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The motion and white noise works/ worked for both of my babies.

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Oh that's so sad @Namechanger55555

OP I know it is hard sometimes when it feels you have done all the research and dh just nods and ignores. But this is truly important. Does he not realise how dangerous it is?

@SylvesterTheCat I don’t think he’s convinced. But I also think it’s a genuine accident every time and he doesn’t mean to.

He always looks fairly safe on him but obviously we don’t want to take any chances.

My DDs also slept well in baby swings. Worth the money definitely and means they can nap downstairs no problem.

You need to go absolutely ballistic next time it happens. DH attempted this once (I think he thought it was cute) and I'm afraid I went mental, took the baby, shouted at him and basically told him that he clearly didn't care about me or baby having put her and risk and making me anxious about leaving her downstairs to do something outrageous like nap or shower. Funnily enough he never did it again. Your reaction needs to match the severity. Could you talk to the HV at the 6 week check?

To be honest I can understand how it can happen by accident. I remember falling asleep once breastfeeding sitting up in bed. I was horrified and from then on, side-fed in bed making sure there were no blankets/cushions around etc so that we could both happily nod off. So with all good intentions it can happen, I know. But is there a way he can make the area/situation safe "just in case"? (But be careful if he falls asleep next to the baby in bed too... co sleeping is safe only really with the mother, apparently, as a mother has a set of in built senses/instincts whereby she will not roll over or smother the baby- or so I have read.
Or you've just got to find another way of doing it. Sleep deprivation is so hard and you can find yourself talking yourself into doing things "oh, just this once".